This blog is about life with a baby. It's not always what you expect and there is definitely no job description. Every baby is different and unique which is why motherhood can be so scary, fun, terrifying, exciting, and rewarding all at the same time.

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  • Friday, February 06, 2009 3:08 PM | claire (Administrator)


    Are you planning to travel with your baby? Is so, let start at the beginning? You will need to get a passport for your little one. If you have not already done so, you can download an application form at
    http://www.ppt.gc.ca/cdn/form.aspx?lang=eng&region=Canada , or go to your nearest passport office. 

    First Aid Kit: One of the most important things you will need is your First Aid Kit, and it should include:

    Pedialyte, in case of diarrhea and dehydration

    Advil, or other pain/fever medication, whichever one your pediatrician recommends

    Benadryl for allergies

    Itch cream for insect bites

    Thermometer – you will want to be able to do an accurate temperature check in the event your baby gets sick.

    Proper medicine dropper, never estimate the amount of medication

    If you use natural/homeopathic medicines, you can bring activated charcoal for relief of diarrhea for the whole family (check with your naturopath)

    What to bring for a 7 day vacation in the sun J

    Bathing suit, that’s a given, but to reduce sun exposure, you can bring full body bathing suits that provide UVA/UVB protection

    Life Jacket, if you’ve given your baby swimming lessons and you plan to put your baby in the ocean you should put a life jacket on them.  You’re probably thinking why would I need a life jacket? I will be holding my baby… well let’s face it, accidents happen and if for some reason your toddler wiggled out of your hand, at least the life jacket will keep your baby above the water

    UVA/UVB mosquito net and sun protection, it is HOT in Mexico, this screen is great for keeping the sun out of the face with the benefit of sun protection. When I was there a lot of moms asked me where I got it and which they had bought one.  I got mine at Wal-Mart, but they are sold at sears, Dearborn, the safety superstore.

    Stroller, one of the best things you can do for yourself and your baby is to bring your stroller. At the airport you can bring it right to the door of the plane and the attendants will put it on the plane after you have boarded. While you are on your vacation, your baby will be able to sleep on the beach, while you lay on a sun bed, or just while you are walking around the resort.  My daughter slept a lot while we were in Mexico, I am glad I had the stroller with me, because she slept in the restaurant, at the beach, at the lobby bar… if I didn’t have my stroller I would have had to either hold her in my hand for two hours or I would have been confined to the room every time she wanted to sleep.

    Extra Diapers,  Let’s face it, you are taking your baby to a different environment and no one can predict how they will react to the food, so I recommend you bring extra diapers in case they have extra bowel movements that normal.

    Food from home, Bring a few days worth of food for your baby/toddler, your baby may not like the food, so it’s a good idea to have food that he/she would normally eat.   Check out the restaurants on arrival and plan your baby’s meals ahead of time.

    Sunscreen, choose sunscreen that is low in chemicals such as “Earth’s Best” and “California baby “  brands

    Get Medical Insurance – If for nothing other than peace of mind, you should definitely get medical insurance, if your child gets sick, you don’t want cost to be a factor in whether or not you call the doctor.

    Remember this is your vacation, you are going to relax, so do some of these simple things ahead of time so that you don’t have too much to think about when you arrive.  Just relax and enjoy paradise!

    For more information on travelling with a baby look for our new Travel Forum where moms can post reviews of the best places to travel with kids.

    If you have any tips for travelling with a baby, please share.

     

  • Friday, February 06, 2009 2:42 PM | claire (Administrator)

    Read Suzette's Story about how she coped with the challenges she faced.

     

    PRELUDE

     

    Before I start my story, it’s probably important for me to tell you a little about myself as it may help my story make sense.

     

    I didn’t get married till later in life, 42 years old to be exact.  Before that I just lived to play, whether it was sports or just partying with my friends, doing whatever I wanted whenever.  It was a carefree life and my poor father had given up any hope that I would grow up and settle down.  Okay so I find myself married a year after meeting my husband.  Considering my age, I realized it was probably a good idea to try for a child right away to complete my new family.

     

    In all those years of having fun, I never knew that age actually does affect one’s ability to quickly conceive.  Lo and behold, we finally got pregnant after a year.  My little guy was not really so little, almost 9 lbs and over half a metre long when he was born.  Now I’m a pretty short gal so that explains the HUGE belly that proceeded me by a block the whole winter.  Before leaving the hospital a lady from “Social Services” stopped by my room to chat with me but against my wishes and insistence, refused to talk to me because my husband and mother were present.  The curiosity was killing me so I chased her down and asked her what it was about.  Apparently she wanted to talk to me about “Post Partum Depression” as it was very common amongst older mothers.  I assured her I would be fine and would have lots of support from all my family members who lived very close to me but listened to what she had to say anyway.

     

    REALITY

     

    Where did my life go!!!!!!??????  Oh my goodness, NO ONE and NOTHING could have prepared me for the reality of motherhood.  I now realize how easy it was going to work every day.  All girls/women grow up hearing what a miracle and how wonderful motherhood is.  What they forgot to mention was just how hard it is on you for the first few months.  Even the preparatory classes we took at the hospital didn’t set me up for the real thing.  What on earth did the nurse mean when she said “sleep whenever the baby sleeps”.  When the baby slept I was cleaning the house, doing the baby’s never ending laundry, cleaning bottles and making new ones, and on top of it all trying to maintain my home and have my husbands meals prepared.

     

    Being housebound the first couple of months was also a killer.  I guess due to my age, I had a very tough recovery.  On top of that I developed severe tendonitis in both arms.  I’m sure a lot of you mothers out there experienced that too.  Now my social life and ‘big outings’ consisted of going to the mall with my husband and baby.  I truly began to understand what the nurse meant by post partum depression!  My poor husband who married such a laid back women now had a shrew freaking out on him, even though he helped with everything.  Talk about hormones gone crazy, plus add to that severe sleep deprivation.  Yeah I could all of a sudden flip personalities and it wasn’t pretty.  How women who have no close support from family/friends survive I have no idea.  All I can say is “hats off to you!”

      

    HOW I SURVIVED

     

    Okay we are now in present day.  Obviously I made it through even though I previously had serious doubts.

     

    The most important things I did to get my life back on track and be the best mom I could was:

     

    1)      Get mobile.  This is so important and I tell all my friends who are new moms that they need to do this as soon as possible.

    2)      Join a Mom & Tot network.  Let’s face it, your life has changed and your relationships with your single friends while still there is now different as your priorities have changed.  The advice you get from other new moms goes a long way to easing your mind and giving you confidence in your own role as a mother.  These ladies are a lifeline, truly.  It’s also great to get your own child socialized while you both enjoy the company of others who are on the same page in their lives.

    3)      Enroll your child and yourself in classes.  The TORONTO FUN GUIDE and the ONTARIO EARLY YEARS centres provide lots of great classes.

    4)      Story Time at the library is awesome and getting your child interested in reading and learning phonetics from an early age is a win win situation.  Plus there are lots of play areas for the kids.  My son loves going there to play.  We go to the North York Public Library in the North York City Centre.

     

    IMPORTANT PIECE OF ADVICE

     

    If you plan on returning to work, and didn’t apply for daycare during your pregnancy, get cracking!  I am now having to resort to a nanny as there is no affordable daycare available in my area for kids under 18 months at this time.  Waiting lists are about a year to a year and a half I’ve been told at all the best places in my vicinity.

     

    I’m even trying to find someone in my area to share a nanny as I have to return to work in 3 months.

      

    MY FINAL WORDS

     

    I have a gorgeous, happy, loving son named Rafael and he’s the best thing in my life along with my husband.  I wouldn’t trade motherhood for anything.

     

  • Friday, February 06, 2009 2:26 PM | claire (Administrator)

    Are you having difficulty transitioning to parenting?  Do you feel like you are alone and have little or no support?  Well, the truth is you are not alone, in fact most new parents feel this way and luckily there are many programs and services in place to ease the transition to parenting. While telephone counseling and online support such as our website is useful. It is also extremely important to get out and socialize with other moms.  You will find that there is always someone there that relates to you and your situation, not only that, getting out and meeting new friends for yourself has a therapeutic effect  and you will find that you feel much better than if you isolate yourself and stay indoors all day.

    Below are some important numbers that you can call if you feel overwhelmed. 

    Sick Kids Hospital – Telephone Counseling
    Motherisk
    The risk and safety of treatment v.s non-treatment
    Call: 416-813-6780
    Available : Mon to Fri,  9 am To 5 p.m. 

    310-COPE  - Crisis Line - York Region
    When you feel overwhelmed and need don’t know where to turn
    Available : 24hrs

    York Region Health Connection
    1-800-361-5653 – Public health nurses
    Available 8:30am to 4:30pm, Monday to Friday

    Life With A Baby - Mom to Mom
    416-833-3860
    connect with other moms in your area to talk.
    When all you want is for someone to listen.

    Toronto Public Health
    416-338-7600 – Public Health nurses

    Links and Online Resources

    www.motherisk.org

    www.von.ca

    Good Beginnings Program: If your baby is below 6 months old, you may be able to have someone come in once a week for a few hours to help you.  I know many moms who have benefited tremendously from this service.

    We’ll be updating this list each week. If you know a number for support in your area, please let us know or post a comment.  

  • Tuesday, January 27, 2009 9:14 AM | claire (Administrator)

    When I had my daughter, I discussed with my husband some of the things we would never ever do, for me, it was : I will never let my little princess "cry it out".  For 19 months, we stuck to that decision, if she cried one of us would go in and comfort her, but this weeks we had to let her "cry it out".   At 19 months, toddlers have already started testing the rules and limitations that we set, that is what Katelyn was doing, she started waking up in the middle of the night, she started refusing to go to sleep at bedtime, for two weeks we tried everything, we took her from the crib b/c we thought she started hating her crib, we let her sleep with us, b/c we wanted her to get her rest, but when she had a tantrum at 4am and nothing would soothe her, we realized she was overtired and none of the solutions we were trying worked... we discussed, should we let her cry?  We decided we would, the first night we gave up after five minutes, we felt too guilty about it, the following day Katelyn was so over tired she was having tantrums about everything, she wouldn't eat properly, she was a completely different child from the one we knew...  that night we decided we had to stick to the plan of letting her cry for a bit and then going to sleep... she cried for about 10 minutes (it wasn't a "I'm hurt or I'm in pain cry") it was her I'm really tired cry, I started going up the stairs about five minutes into her crying and when she heard me coming up she stopped crying, so I started back down again and she started crying again, at one point she stopped crying to listen if we were still there and then started crying again - it was at that point that I realized she was just crying so that we would come in and get her.

    Our choice was, do we try to make her feel better at this moment, but she will still not sleep and still be overtired tomorrow or do we let her cry for a bit, go to sleep and then be rested tomorrow.  We decided it was better for her health if she went to sleep and got a good night rest and it worked.

    The first night she cried for 30 minutes (which was heart breaking for us, mostly b/c we felt bad about it, will this affect her emotionally, (From what I've been told by her doctor and York Region Public Health - it will not affect her b/c we are not neglecting her - we followed the guide in the "Secrets of the baby whisperer".  She slept 12 hours, which is her usual amount of sleep before the change in schedule.

    The second night she cried for 10 minutes ( we already saw the huge improvement in her mood, her eating and her ability to enjoy her toys again from just one night of rest, we didn't feel guilty anymore), she slept 12 hours

    The third night she cried less than two minutes

    Last night she didn't cry at all. 

    So now, I saying "never say never"...  For us, we could see that our daughter was over tired, we could see that she needed to sleep and even though it broke our hearts to do it, we had to think about what is best for her in the long run and we had do something we didn't feel good about, but that is a part of parenting, sometimes we have to make the right decision, even if it doesn't fit into our picture of what we would or wouldn't do.  If you are having issues regarding sleep, and you would like more information on a variety of solutions, send us an email at info@lifewithababy.com and we will forward you some resources.

    What have you said you would never do and then decided to do afterwards, share your stories whether it be letting them watch TV, letting them cry it out, putting them in daycare, using a pacifier, letting them suck their finger, co-sleeping, etc. 

  • Saturday, January 24, 2009 9:51 PM | claire (Administrator)

    Hi Fellow Mommies,

    We are looking for an organiser for the Thursday Meetup at Promenade mall.  Please reply to this post or send and email to info@lifewithababy.com if you are interested.

    We really want to keep this "coffee & chat" event at Promenade mall going, but my daughter is now 18 months and this event is more for moms with babies 0-12 months.  So if you have a baby 0-12 months and you interested we can change the date and time of this event to fit your schedule.

    Thanks so much,
    Alexia

  • Friday, January 09, 2009 8:16 PM | Sarah
    Hi Moms!

    I have signed up for baby sign language classes with Wee Hands. The classes are to be held 11:00-11:45 at Toys R Us @ Vaughan Mills for 8 weeks beginning Friday, January 23.

    Unfortunately, I had a call from the instructor today saying that not enough people have signed up and she may have to cancel the class. If you are at all interested, come join me! We can have lunch and/or go shopping afterward! The classes are $140 per family and include the manual.

    Click here for her website - you can email her directly from there or register online. Be sure to mention that I referred you and we'd really like the class to run.

    Thanks!
    - Sarah 
  • Thursday, January 08, 2009 10:19 AM | Amanda

    Hello my name is Amanda Herrington. I have a 7 months old daughter Rebecca. I am new here and I have created a mississauga / oakville group as per Alexia notice.

    If anyone has any ideas and so on please let me know!

  • Thursday, December 18, 2008 5:07 PM | claire (Administrator)
    Written by Suzette:

    Hi there ladies I have a lovely 7 month old boy and would like to start hosting some play dates for 12 months and younger starting in January. I was thinking we could include some storytelling with hand puppets as well or anything else you would like to recommend. I'm looking at 2 options:

    1) Lunch to be included for moms ($5.00 cost to cover cost of food and party room) from noon - 3:00 pm
    or
    2) Play only from 1:30 pm to 3:00 pm

    I live on Beecroft Road which is in the Yonge/Sheppard area.

    I would like to get an idea ahead of time in the level of interest so please respond to this post if you would like to participate and which of the above 2 options you would prefer.

    Cheers and wishing you and your families a wonderful holiday season!
  • Thursday, December 18, 2008 9:40 AM | Suzette
    Hello ladies. I have a lovely 7 month old boy and I am scheduled to return to work in 5 months. I have been searching for daycare but most places only accept at 18 month+ or are full with waiting lists. I'm looking into possibly hiring a nanny to come to my home at Yonge & Sheppard and was wondering if anyone else would like to share a nanny and split the cost. I am only looking for one other person to share the service. Preferably looking for a child similar in age so by spring 11 months to under 2 years old.

    If you are interested and would be willing to drop your child to Yonge & Sheppard please contact: Suzette at 416-221-0522 (home) or 416-697-5296.
  • Thursday, December 18, 2008 9:32 AM | Suzette
    This is just information I am sharing but it is up to you if you wish to consult your pediatrician first.  I tried it on the soles of my baby's feet covered by socks and worn inside his sleeper.  He definitely slept better than the previous night.  See article below.


    Some interesting info for your children and maybe worth a try.  Perhaps you have heard it before.
    Subject:   VICKS VAPO RUB INTERESTING

    During a lecture on Essential Oils, they told us how the foot soles can absorb oils. Their example: Put garlic on your feet and within 20 minutes you can 'taste' it.

    Some of us have used Vicks Vapo rub for years for everything from chapped lips to sore toes and many body parts in between. But I've never heard of this. And don't laugh, it works 100% of the time, although the scientists who discovered it aren't sure why. To stop night time coughing in a child (or adult as we found out personally), put Vicks Vapo rub generously on the bottom of the feet at bedtime, then cover with socks. Even persistent, heavy, deep coughing will stop in about 5 minutes and stay stopped for many, many hours of relief. Works 100% of the time and is more effective in children than even very strong prescription cough medicines. In addition it is extremely soothing and comforting and they will sleep soundly.
    Just happened to tune in A.M. Radio and picked up this guy talking about why cough medicines in kids often do more harm than good, due to the chemical makeup of these strong drugs so, I listened. It was a surprise finding and found to be more effective than prescribed medicines for children at bedtime, in addition to have a soothing and calming effect on sick children who then went on to sleep soundly.

    My wife tried it on herself when she had a very deep constant and  persistent cough a few weeks ago and it worked 100%!   She said that it felt like a warm blanket had enveloped her, coughing stopped in a few minutes and believe me, this was a deep, ( incredibly annoying!) every few seconds uncontrollable cough, and she slept cough-free for hours every night that she used it.


    DON'T SHUN THIS ONE.. TRY IT THE NEXT TIME YOU GET A BAD COLD






 

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