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  • Wednesday, August 13, 2008 7:56 PM | Marina

    Written for BabyCentre UK
    Penney Hames answers:


    For the first six weeks -- and sometimes 12 -- most babies sleep erratically. You are lucky if you see a pattern emerging before this time. But after three to four months you can help your baby into a regular pattern of sleep so long as you act consistently and positively.

    It can be difficult to know what to do for the best, especially when there is so much advice available. But you are the expert on your baby, and you know what will work best for your family. So, decide what you want, and then go for it. Babies are remarkably adaptable -- you can teach your baby to sleep without you or with you, in your bed or his cot. The choice is yours. But you are much more likely to stick with a plan that feels right for you than one you happen to find in a book or magazine.

    Every time your baby wakes during the night, you will need to repeat whatever you do to help him fall asleep for the first time each evening. If you feed him to sleep, he will need you to do the same every time he wakes up; if you leave him alone to sleep, he will expect that.

    There are only two essentials for any plan:

    1. Once you begin a course of action, see it through. If you decide that you are not going to rock your baby to sleep, but instead place him in his cot sleepy but awake and return to whisper reassurances to him every five or ten minutes, don't give in after 45 minutes -- you will merely have taught your baby that it is worth his while to persist for as long as possible.

    2. Give your plan time to work -- at least a week or two. Each new plan that you try means that you are asking your baby to learn a whole new set of sleep habits. Old habits take time to disappear, and new ones time to become established. Don't confuse your baby by chopping and changing. Stick with your plan for at least one or two weeks.

    Your baby will be soothed into sleep by a predictable and relaxing bedtime routine, and you will be more ready to say good-night once you have spent some time being close with him. He will also be more likely to sleep if you try to avoid letting him fall asleep in the late afternoon.

    If your baby still does not sleep in spite of your best efforts, you may find it useful to talk to your health visitor.

    Source: http://www.babycenter.ca/baby/sleep/wontsleepexpert/

  • Wednesday, July 23, 2008 8:10 PM | Elena

    Hi,

    My 3 month old baby seems to take only short naps (30-45min). Rarely she would sleep for an hour or two when she is outsided.  She wakes up tired, and need another nap within an hour. Any suggestions? I know that every baby is different, and this might just be her "style", however, if anyone experienced that, i would like to know if their kids outgrew it. Thank you.

  • Saturday, July 12, 2008 8:59 PM | Cheryl

    My 9 month old son has never liked the bath.  He screams from the time he is approaching the water, until he is taken out.  We have tried to keep the room warm, give him toys, sing to him, etc.  I thought that it would get batter, after a few months. 

    He doesn't seem to mind having a shower when Daddy holds him.  The problem is that it is not practical to only give him showers.  He needs to get used to being in the bathtub. 

    Has anyone else experienced this with their babies?  If so, please share anything that may have worked.  I am open to any suggestions at this point.

  • Thursday, July 03, 2008 2:55 PM | Marina

    Expert Answers

    Paul Offit, infectious disease expert

    There's clear evidence that the MMR vaccine does not cause autism. Autism, a serious developmental disorder that causes problems in communication, social interaction, and behavior, has been on the rise since the 1970s and, by some estimates, now affects one in 160 children in the United States. No one knows what causes the condition or why it's becoming more prevalent, so parents are understandably alarmed.

    Concern about a link between the MMR vaccine and autism began in 1998, after the British medical journal The Lancet published a study connecting the measles-mumps-rubella vaccine with autism. The researchers were investigating the theory that intestinal problems, like Crohn's disease, can result from viral infection and can contribute to the development of autism. The study was very small, however (only 12 children participated), and has since been called into question by several of the original researchers.

    Another British study, published in 2002, seemed to suggest an association between measles (not necessarily the vaccine), intestinal bowel disease, and autism or related developmental disorders.

    In that study, researchers found measles virus fragments in 75 of 91 children with intestinal bowel disease. Traces of measles were found in only five of the 70 controls. But the way the study was designed made it impossible to know whether the MMR vaccine caused the bowel disease and developmental delays or if the association was a coincidence.

    In 2004, a much larger study in The Lancet compared 1,294 children with autistic spectrum disorders with 4,469 unaffected children and concluded that the MMR vaccination doesn't raise the risk of autism or other autism spectrum disorders.

    A number of other studies have compared the incidence of autism among children who received the MMR vaccine and those who didn't, and concluded that autism isn't more common in vaccinated children.. Ten studies performed on three continents involving tens of thousands of children have now clearly shown that MMR does not cause autism.

    Most experts think that autism may be at least partly genetic, and point out that there's no plausible way for a vaccine to trigger it. After all, there's no known connection between measles, mumps, or rubella and autism. It doesn't make sense that a vaccine would cause a condition that the disease itself doesn't cause, since a vaccine is essentially a symptomless infection.

    It's also important to point out that the MMR vaccine never contained thimerosal, the mercury-based preservative that some people believe may be linked with autism. (Thimerosal has now been removed from all childhood vaccines except the flu vaccine, so it's no longer a concern.) Nevertheless, the Centers for Disease Control continues research in this area to try and resolve the issue.

    Source: http://www.babycenter.com/404_does-the-mmr-vaccine-put-my-child-at-greater-risk-for-autism_11519.bc

  • Thursday, July 03, 2008 1:57 PM | Marina
    Everything I read tells me to put my baby down while he's still awake so that he can learn how to soothe himself to sleep. Sounds good, but how do I actually do this?

    Expert Answers

    Deborah Lin-Dyken, pediatric sleep disorders expert

    You can't really teach your baby how to self-soothe, but you can provide him with the opportunity to teach himself. Given the right circumstances and the right stage of development, usually between 3 and 6 months of age, it will happen on its own. It's like learning to crawl: If you always carry your baby, he'll never have a chance to discover crawling, since he'll never be on the floor long enough to figure it out. It's the same thing with self-soothing: If you always nurse or rock your baby to sleep, he'll never have a chance to learn how to soothe himself to sleep.

    How can you help your baby do this? First, you need to set the stage, which includes two things: a regular bedtime and a consistent routine. A bedtime that occurs at the same time every night will set your baby's internal clock so that he's naturally sleepy at a predictable time. The bedtime routine should happen in the place you want your baby to sleep and include three or four soothing activities, such as taking a bath, reading a story and having a cuddle, that let him know it's time for "night-night." When the bedtime routine is finished, put your baby to bed drowsy but awake.

    Many babies will surprise you and drift off to sleep without much protest. Other babies, especially older ones who may have come to depend on being nursed or rocked to sleep, will need a bit of practice. Remember, self-soothing is just like crawling — it takes time and opportunity. You can teach your baby all at once and wait outside your baby's room, checking on him as frequently or infrequently as you wish. Or you can make it a more gradual process, sitting next to your baby's crib and easing yourself farther away each night — sitting in the middle of the room, sitting in the doorway and so on.

    If your baby is used to breast- or bottle-feeding as he goes to sleep in your arms, you'll have to break his need to suck to sleep. You can move your child's feeding to earlier in the bedtime routine or slowly reduce the number of ounces or number of minutes of this feeding. Or when you see your baby starting to drift off during a feeding, promptly end his meal and finish the rest of the bedtime routine before laying him down.

    Although some people believe that you should never wake a sleeping baby, keep the big picture in mind. On any particular night, waking your baby after he's drifted off may seem crazy, especially when you're beat and have a million things to do before turning in yourself. But when you remember your long-term goal of helping your baby develop the ability to soothe himself to sleep, both at bedtime and when he naturally wakes up during the night, it's well worth doing.

    What happens if you've given your baby plenty of chances to self-soothe and he just can't seem to do it? Take a step back and try to figure out why. Perhaps he's simply too young and doesn't yet have the developmental ability to self-soothe, just as a 3-month-old can spend hours on the living room floor yet still won't be able to crawl .In this case, wait a few days, weeks or even months before trying again.

    Or maybe your baby is too tired — and thus too overwrought — to settle down by himself. In this case, try moving his bedtime a bit earlier so he isn't a complete wreck by lights-out. Finally, think about whether you're really giving your baby an opportunity to find ways to soothe himself, or are rushing in to comfort him at his first peep and depriving him of the chance to figure it out on his own.

    Most important, keep your goal in mind: Developing the ability to soothe himself to sleep will enable your baby to snooze for longer stretches and put himself back to sleep when he naturally wakes up during the night, allowing him to get the rest he needs to grow and thrive. What's more, self-soothing is an important life skill that will serve your baby well not just at bedtime but also in other situations, such as when he's separated from you at daycare or even when you momentarily walk out of the room, when he gets frustrated trying to master all those other important skills such as — you guessed it — crawling, or when he's just feeling fussy.

    Source: http://www.babycenter.com/404_how-do-i-teach-my-baby-to-soothe-himself-to-sleep_1272921.bc

  • Friday, June 27, 2008 11:04 AM | claire (Administrator)
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  • Tuesday, June 03, 2008 12:49 PM | Marina

    Growth and Development

    Separation Anxiety

    What is separation anxiety?

    Part of a baby's normal development is learning that separations from parents are not permanent. Young babies do not understand time, so they think a parent who walks out of the room is gone forever. Also, they have not yet developed the concept of object permanence - that a hidden object is still there, it just cannot be seen. Without these concepts, babies become anxious and fearful when a parent leaves their sight. Separation anxiety usually begins around the age of 6 months. Babies may suddenly be afraid of familiar people such as babysitters or grandparents. Stranger anxiety is also common at this age, when they are fearful of unknown people. Separation anxiety is usually at its peak between 10 and 18 months. It typically ends by the time a child is 3 years old.

    What are the signs of separation anxiety?

    Babies experiencing separation anxiety fear that a parent will leave and not return. The fear may be worsened in the presence of a stranger. Typical responses of babies experiencing this normal phase of development may include the following:

    • crying when you leave the room
    • clinging or crying, especially in new situations
    • awakening and crying at night after previously sleeping through the night
    • refusal to go to sleep without parent nearby

    How can you help your child with separation anxiety?

    Children who feel secure are better able to handle separations. Cuddling and comforting your child when you are together can help him/her feel more secure. Other ways to help your child with separations include the following:

    • Comfort and reassure your child when he/she is afraid.
    • At home, help your baby learn independence by allowing him/her to crawl to other (safe) rooms for a short period of time by himself/herself.
    • Tell your baby if you are going to another room and that you will be back, then come back.
    • Plan your separations when your baby is rested and fed, rather than before a nap or meal.
    • Introduce new people and places gradually, allowing your baby time to get to know a new care provider.
    • Do not prolong good-byes and have the sitter distract your baby or child with a toy as you leave.
    • Introduce a transitional object such as a blanket or soft toy to help ease separations. 
    • For night awakenings, comfort and reassure your child by patting and soothing, but avoid letting your child get out of bed.

           Source: University of Virginia Health System

            http://www.healthsystem.virginia.edu/uvahealth/peds_growth/sepanx.cfm

     

  • Tuesday, September 25, 2007 5:28 PM | claire (Administrator)

     

    I'm a first time mom, completely happy with my beautiful daughter, but trying to cope with all the changes to my previously well planned and oganized life.  When I asked friends who had kids to tell me what it's like, they all gave me the glorious family life picture and I thought okay, I can do that. It will be great. 

    AND then... Baby arrives and it's not the glorious family picture that I imagined. It's not even close, and the weird thing is... the problem isn't the baby, it's the rest of the people around me, it's the fact that I'm not longer a great career woman, I'm no longer free to make my own choices and do whatever I want... I'm no longer the person I was and it's scary! 
    Coping with my new roles has been quite a challenge for me and coping with the new dynamics of my relationship with my husband (who in the first three months I wanted to throw off a bridge).  As much as they try, they just don't get it. They think that because they go to work, when they get home, they should have a nice dinner and then relax (because after all, we've JUST been with the baby all day)  we haven't been WORKING!!!

    Sometimes I think that when a woman has a baby, the husband should just go away for six months, this way mom can recover and take care of the baby without the addition of a much bigger, complaining baby.  Because the way I see it, a husband is just another baby

    Does anyone else feel the same way?

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