This blog is about life with a baby. It's not always what you expect and there is definitely no job description. Every baby is different and unique which is why motherhood can be so scary, fun, terrifying, exciting, and rewarding all at the same time.

We encourage you to share your experiences - by sharing your experiences and commenting on other posts, you may be helping other moms.
  • Thursday, March 15, 2018 10:45 PM | Claire (Administrator)

    The Life With A Baby program has been operating for 10 years. An entire decade of evidence-based programming to support new and expectant mothers.

    I am absolutely humbled and proud of what Life With A Baby has become.  When I first had the idea of the program after my own challenges with adjusting to becoming a mom I had no idea what to expect. Honestly, I was just looking for something that would ease my own loneliness, isolation, fears, and anxieties of being a new mom.

    Luckily, there were other moms who felt the same way and were just as passionate about helping and supporting other new mothers and we came together to create something amazing. I am blown away.  At last count, there are 500 volunteers! 500!!!

    We've had over 35,000 attendees out to events across the province and this year we are national! That’s right! There is a LWAB chapter in all but 2 provinces in Canada! With PEI & Quebec launching this year.





    Life With A Baby now has 49 Communities, 420,000 users, and over 950,000 website visitors, over the last 10 years.  You can pictures from some of our larger events on our Facebook page at www.facebook.com/lifewithababy





    Peer support is something all new moms should have
     and that’s why I’m so happy to see community ambassadors who are making a positive change. 

    In 2018 I’m challenging YOU to get involved! There are many ways to get involved reach out to us at info@lifewithababy.com. We’d love to hear from you.



    Pictured above are some of our 2017 community managers


    Moms just like you and me have taken the initiative to do something to help other mothers and babies. I call these moms superheroes because they are fighting for moms and helping in the prevention of postpartum depression.

    Our community is wonderful! And continues to grow – Thank you to our volunteers, chapter managers, community ambassadors, donors, sponsors, and you - our members for being a part of what makes the LWAB community unique and supportive.






    LWAB would not be where we are today without the help and support of our amazing volunteers.  

    So what does a volunteer do?  It really is up to you and what you think you can contribute.  I know like me you are a busy mom trying to balance it all, so we do not want to add too much to your already full plate.  Whatever you can give will be appreciated. 


    Let’s make LWAB even more amazing!  

    Here's what Debbi, LWAB member and Volunteer since 2009 has to say about her experience as a volunteer.

    I learnt about Life With A Baby through a friend and signed up for my first event completely unsure of what to expect. What I found was a group of women with the same circumstances as myself... a new mom craving 'adult' contact and conversation and unsure of "what to do" with this tiny new life I held in my arms.


    It started with my volunteering to host a few social events, then some classes and culminated in my becoming more involved in general organization of events and activities, even though I am now back at work. Thanks to LWAB, I met and still keep in contact with moms in my "Birth Club"; as a group we still get together and will continue to stay in contact for many years as our children grow up together.


    I would recommend to any parent of young children to volunteer to host a social event - something simple like a coffee and chat or meet up at one of the many free activities available for babies and young children. In general it's great being able to meet other parents, compare notes and share those special moments with someone who 'gets it'. It makes the parental journey a little less lonely or boring, especially for new moms on maternity leave.


    I have had so much fun meeting parents, babies and the other fantastic volunteers. Thank you for the opportunity to volunteer and be apart of an amazing group of people that do so much for others.

    If you are interested in helping, please send me an email at info@lifewithababy.com.
    Thanks so much!!!

    1.       Become a LWAB community ambassador by creating a group that you will actively manage by providing resources, hosting social events and workshops.  Maybe you already have a group and want to invite more moms to join you.  For more info contact info@lifewithababy.com


    2.       Take our pledge to reduce social isolation and host one event this year.  See more info here


    3.       Join a committee – if interested send an email to claire.zlobin@lifewithababy.com and specify if you are interested in the Event planning committee, the fundraising committee, or the advisory committee.


    4.       Volunteer with us.  Volunteers are the lifeblood of our organization! We could not do this without the support of our volunteers, to join our volunteer team join the chapter that is closest to you. Don’t see a volunteer group near you? Email us.

    ONTARIO

    Simcoe Region volunteer group

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/609464679242425/

    Greater Toronto Area volunteer group

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/761916110493007/

    Peel Region volunteer group

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/1863958983915476/

    Waterloo Region & Guelph volunteer group

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/LWABWaterlooGuelphVolunteers/

    Ottawa volunteer group

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/1609802436013009/

    New Tecumseth/Tottenham volunteer group

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/1975429859346597/

    London & Middlesex volunteer group

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/128599374586277/

    Windsor & Essex County volunteer group

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/763709783660480/

    Saskatchewan volunteer group

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/LWABSaskatchewan/?ref=br_rs

    Newfoundland volunteer group

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/LWABNewfoundland/

    Alberta volunteer group

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/LWABAlberta/

    Manitoba volunteer group

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/LWABManitoba/

    Nova Scotia volunteer group

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/148780065753176/

    British Columbia volunteer group

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/1260393957399197/

    New Brunswick volunteer group

    https://www.facebook.com/groups/139850323399532/

                                                   

    Let’s continue to work together to make our community one that is supportive, non-judgmental, and sustainable.

    With love & gratitude from my family to yours.


    Claire
    Founder and Executive Director


  • Thursday, March 15, 2018 8:00 AM | Christina (Administrator)

    Life With A Baby is turning 10. To celebrate, we are excited to share with you insights from 10 different Moms, answering 10 questions honestly.  


    Desiree

    Desiree is a first-time mama to a beautiful toddler and the creative maker of beautiful things over at Dezign Creative - When she's not Cricut-deep on a project, she loves spending time with her family, searching for the perfect cupcake, and taking time to stop and smell the roses.


    1. How would you describe yourself before having a baby?
    In some ways, I miss the person I was before having a baby. Energized, active, able to travel freely, available to spontaneously change my plans on a whim.

    In most ways, I don't miss that person at all. It was as if I was constantly chasing the next thing, instead of being present. Of absorbing the moment I was currently in.

    Of appreciating my surroundings and my ground instead of constantly trying to fly to new territories.There's a giant void that's been filled by becoming a mother. I feel complete.

    2. How would you describe yourself after having a baby?
    As mentioned above...I think the word is Complete.

    Becoming a mother has taught me endless lessons about patience, perseverance and courage... it has humbled me in more ways than I can count, and it has shown me how rewarding it can be on a daily basis. The love of a child is unlike anything else on the planet.  The motivation to succeed and overcome and grow with her by our side is the ultimate motivation to get out of bed every morning.  Our baby brings balance, calm, curiosity and energy that I've never experienced before. We're better people because of her.


    3. What is one thing you miss about your pre-baby life?
    Being able to get a full night's sleep. And I don't mean to sound cliché, but it is really true what they say that once a parent you never 'sleep' the same way again.

    Every little noise in the night, every minor turn and twirl, I hear it. Even if she sleeps through the night peacefully, I could spend hours watching her through the monitor, on guard.

    And I believe even if we had the night off, or took a trip without her, I wouldn't be able to sleep properly wondering how she's doing! Our life's mission is her happiness and safety.

    Not to mention once she's a teenager and out in the middle of the night I can completely understand why parents lose so much sleep over their kids no matter the age! Hehehe.


    4. What is one thing you wish someone prepared you for when it comes to Motherhood?
    The complications of birth. I don't think anyone can truly paint a picture for you without completely scaring you into not having a baby. But... in hindsight, I think there are a few things we could have been better educated on as to how to interact with the medical system and push for the answers we needed to be able to have a less traumatic birth journey.

    5. How has Motherhood changed you?
    So much...in so many ways. I feel I am a better wife, daughter, sister, woman...because of being a mother. It is now, as a mother, that my own mama and I are closer than ever.

    We understand each other as women, we share a common understanding of what it means to be a 'mother' - I relate to her in ways I could have never dreamed of.  Years of misunderstandings or feelings of resentment cleared up overnight once I realized the filter of parenthood guides so many decisions in our upbringing. 

    I feel that even within my career and my work life - I am more patient and understanding, I choose calm before anger, and I try to do my best to encourage others to learn and share and discover new things.. just like our toddler would. My new mantra since she was born has been 'If I wouldn't say this to my toddler....why say it at all?' and I have found my conversations lead with kindness, grace and patience because of this. 


    6. Do you feel like you have “balance” in your life and why?
    Silly word. Balance. I feel that we are perpetually on a quest for balance. It changes, like a tide. It takes different forms and shapes.

    I think the most important thing about finding 'balance' is defining what that means to you. And accepting that the definition will evolve over time.

    To me, in this moment - balance is having the opportunity to creatively pursue what fuels me while making the time to be present for my family and its growth.


    7. What helped get you through the postpartum transition into Motherhood?
    Learning as quickly as possible that you need a tribe. That it does take a village. That you don't need to do it alone. It can become a really lonely place very quickly if you allow yourself to think that way.  I was diagnosed with pretty intense PPD and high anxiety after the birth of my daughter - and looking back now, without the support of our Doulas, the Healthy Babies program of Peel, and the Women's Mental Health program along with endless support from friends, families, and other mamas going through the same... it wouldn't have been the same.


    8. Motherhood is hard. What gets you through each day, day after day?
    Seeing life through my daughter's eyes. Her curiosity. The things that spark her interest. Seeing her appreciate the little things. Making something out of nothing. She inspires me to look for creativity in unconventional places. She pushes me to get out of my own funks and keep going. She brings out the best version of myself. Can't imagine life without her.


    9. What makes you grateful about motherhood?

    The incredible gift that is having been chosen to be her mommy - and watching her grow and fulfil her dreams to become whatever she decides to be.

    10. What is one thing you would tell a new or expecting Mother?
    It gets better. No really, it does. And the second you ask for help, we'll all be there to support.  You're never alone in this. 

    It's okay to not feel okay about it all sometimes - but it's even more okay to accept that you need your village behind you to get stuff done!

    The reward at the other end of the rainbow is absolutely beautiful.  To your child, you are perfect.





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  • Wednesday, March 14, 2018 8:00 AM | Christina (Administrator)

    Life With A Baby is turning 10. To celebrate, we are excited to share with you insights from 10 different Moms, answering 10 questions honestly.  #



    SUSAN S.


    Susan is a mother of two boys (2.5 and 4 months) from Guelph. She loves red wine,  pizza, reminiscing about sleep and avoiding housework.


    1. How would you describe yourself before having a baby? 
    I would have described myself as very free-spirited, a little impulsive, but very career driven and passionate about things that were important to me. My husband and I were the last of all of our friends to have kids, and I loved that we were able to pick up and do whatever we wanted, whenever we wanted. We moved across the country twice in 3 years, with very little planning and with very little belongings and there's something very liberating about the ability to do that.

    2. How would you describe yourself after having a baby? 
    Oh boy. I honestly don't know how to describe myself now. I've had 2 babies in 2 years and had very severe PPMD after my first son, and that is something that truly changed me. I'm definitely more guarded, more anxious, more self-conscious. I am also still really passionate about things that are important to me, although the causes have changed. I'm super passionate about being open and honest about my PPMD and have become a workplace ambassador for mental health. I wrote an article about my experience with PPMD and found that giving myself a voice really created a sense of pride and was also very freeing.


    3. What is one thing you miss about your pre-baby life? 
    So much. I miss being able to do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted. I miss going to Starbucks alone. I miss going grocery shopping alone. I miss getting my nails done every 3 weeks and my roots and highlights done every 8 weeks. More than anything though, I miss sleep. I have not had more than 4 straight hours of sleep in 3 years. I consistently say that my greatest fantasy is 24 hours alone in a hotel room, with a king sized bed, black out blinds, a hot-tub and an Ambien. That sounds like pure heaven.


    4. What is one thing you wish someone prepared you for when it comes to Motherhood? 
    I'm not sure anyone could have realistically prepared me for Motherhood. I have very honest friends, and they shared the brutal truths with me, but until you are in the thick of it... nothing can really prepare you for that. The one thing that really surprised me was the love I felt for my second son when he was born. I loved my first son with every shred of my being and while pregnant with my second, I couldn't fathom how I could possibly love another one as much. And then he was born, and I just... did. Somehow, your heart has room.

    5. How has Motherhood changed you? 
    Besides the fact that I currently have 4 inches of grey roots showing and my nails are disgusting... I am a very different person that I was 3 years ago. I am less tolerant of peoples bullshit. I don't have the time or energy or interest in dealing with toxic relationships and one-way relationships. I've really learned to prioritize the things that are really important to me. I used to be that friend that everyone would come and dump their problems on and I don't do that anymore. It has definitely caused the end of some relationships, but at the end of the day, that just says to me that I wasn't that important to them. 


    6. Do you feel like you have “balance” in your life and why?
     
    No. Right now there is zero balance in my life. With a 2.5-year-old and a 4-month-old, I am purely in survival mode. I started my baby on formula just last week so that I could get some alone time every so often. I felt tremendous guilt about that, but I realized that I needed some sort of balance to keep my sanity. If someone has an answer on how to achieve balance during these early years, I would love to hear it!!


    7. What helped get you through the postpartum transition into Motherhood?
     
    I've gained some serious warrior beast mama friends, who were there for me in the darkest days of new motherhood. They watched my son while I went to therapy. They brought me wine when I felt I just couldn't leave the house. They forced me to go out for lunch with my new baby, to show me that I could still have some semblance of an adult life. So, I've learned to cherish those friends even more.


    8. Motherhood is hard. What gets you through each day, day after day? 
    Wine. Lots and lots of wine. I'm only half kidding about that. I do actually live for a glass of wine in the evenings when the kids are sleeping. Yes, it's a large glass, and I don't care. I'm a 41-year-old grown ass woman. I think I've earned the right to enjoy my wine. I guess I should mention my kids. Because just when I feel defeated and like I am the worst mother on earth, because I yelled "I cannot watch Super Why anymore!", my oldest will do something adorable and amazing and tell me he loves me, and my youngest will look at me with a smile that could swallow his face. It's almost enough to make me forget that they are jerks 75% of the time.


    9. What makes you grateful about motherhood? 
    I'm grateful for a lot of things. For the way, my husband plays with my boys and how he looks at me in amazement when I calm a crying baby by simply shoving my boob in his mouth. For the concrete examples of seeing my kids learn and grow and knowing that I made them. For the enormous tribe of warrior mamas who truly understand that it takes a village. For allowing me to find a voice for myself and my family.

    10. What is one thing you would tell a new or expecting Mother? 
    Don't get caught up in judgment or what you thought you were going to be like as a mother. When I was pregnant with my first, I said there was no way I would have my baby sleep in our bed. I would breastfeed for 2 years minimum. I was going to make all sorts of beautiful, organic foods for my baby. I was going to be outside as much as possible. My kids wouldn't watch TV until they were 30. Reality: My first slept in our bed until he was 8 months old and my 4-month-old is still in our bed. I breastfed until 16 months and introduced formula at 5 months. I bought store bought, pre-packaged processed food (not all the time, 
    but come on - puffs and mum-mums are soooo easy!). I was pretty much glued to Netflix for the first 7 months. I rely on Treehouse to babysit my oldest more than I care to admit. But you know what, I survive, my kids survive and you will too. You've got this mama, even when you don't think you do. You will get through it. Most importantly though - if you are feeling ANY signs of PPMD (depression, rage, anxiety, etc), please talk to your Dr and ask for help. I PROMISE you, nobody will take your baby away and you will feel a million times better once you get help. And don't forget about the wine. Just skip the bottle and go straight for the box. 





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  • Tuesday, March 13, 2018 8:00 AM | Christina (Administrator)

    Life With A Baby is turning 10. To celebrate, we are excited to share with you insights from 10 different Moms, answering 10 questions honestly.  #LWAB10




    AMY M.

    Amy is a wife and mother of 3 in Brampton. She is a full-time Work From Home Mom as a Certified Child Sleep Consultant, volunteers on 3 separate committees/working groups to improve Child and Youth Mental Health in Peel Region. She loves spending time watching her sons on the volleyball court, dancing around the family room with her daughter and cuddling up on the couch watching This Is Us with her husband.


    1. How would you describe yourself before having a baby?
    Before I had a baby I was focused on my career, loved staying up late watching television and sleeping in in the morning. I was a true night owl.  I grew up as an only child so I was pretty egocentric. I only had to worry about myself and my husband at the time, but he worked a lot so I was on my own most of the time. 

    2. How would you describe yourself after having a baby?
    After having my first son, everything changed. I had brought this little life into the world and every decision, every thought and every worry became about him. I also learned what mommy guilt was. I think as moms, from the moment we find out we are pregnant we feel guilty about everything, especially about not being good enough. "Is it my fault that my baby has colic?" "Is it my fault that my baby won't sleep?" "Am I a good mother?". It was a pretty hard adjustment to life being all about someone else.

    3. What is one thing you miss about your pre-baby life? 
    I do not miss much about my pre-baby life as I was young and hadn't truly discovered who I truly was yet and at the time I was in an unhappy marriage, but if there is one thing that I could say I miss it would have to be, I miss not having to worry if I am doing a good enough job and if my kids will be okay 24/7.


    4. What is one thing you wish someone prepared you for when it comes to Motherhood? 
    The one thing that I wish someone had prepared me better for when it comes to motherhood would have to be the vulnerability that comes along with being a mom. You immediately become more vulnerable to pain and to feel others' pain as well. My oldest was 2.5 months old when the big tsunami hit in 2004 and my heart broke for all the families affected. It also makes us more vulnerable to others' opinions and judgments of our parenting style, mostly because we are already our own worst critic.

    5. How has Motherhood changed you?
    Motherhood has changed me greatly. It has made me a more empathetic person and I always try to help other parents instead of judging them. As my children have gotten older, now 13, 11 and 2.5 years old I have become someone who is stronger and stands up and fights for what is right instead of shying away from conflict. Unfortunately, I have had to learn to face conflict in the school system as well as the child mental health system for the betterment of my children. Motherhood has also given me a greater understanding of my own parents. I may not agree with their parenting style but I can definitely understand why they were as strict as they were. There are times I wish I could just keep my children protected in a bubble but that would be a disservice to them.

    6. Do you feel like you have “balance” in your life and why? 
    I think that having "balance" in my life will be a lifelong work in progress. As a mom, wife and only child I am the one that everyone is dependent on every minute of every day and I have the tendency of taking on too much and not asking for help. I have also recently made a career change and left my job of over 16 years as a manager of customer service at one of the top 5 financial institutions so that I could become a certified child sleep consultant and have the opportunity to work from home helping other families while also being here for my 3 children and mom. I am extremely blessed to have an amazing husband who has been super supportive of my career change and is such a hands-on dad/stepdad that tries to keep me "balanced".

    7. What helped get you through the postpartum transition into Motherhood? 
    My situation is a bit different in that there is a 9 year age gap between my second and third child, so that being said when I had my youngest I felt like it was the first time all over again. When I became a mom for the very first time over 13 years ago I didn't have much help with the transition into Motherhood and I am pretty sure that I suffered from Postpartum depression that I did not get any help for. I was young and just lived it one day at a time and did my best to figure it out. I then continued this way of life when I had my second 20 months after the first. The transition was extremely different after having my youngest 2.5 years ago. My husband and I had suffered from secondary infertility for 3 years before I became pregnant with my daughter. During that time I miscarried. I was extremely anxious my entire pregnancy and had done a great deal of research about the signs of Postpartum Depression and Anxiety and had prepared my husband for what those signs might look like. I also surrounded myself with a great support system of friends to be my "village". My husband and my village got me through the hardest time in my life when I was diagnosed with Postpartum Anxiety and Depression. We as moms need to not be afraid to ask for help. It does not make us bad mothers.

    8. Motherhood is hard. What gets you through each day, day after day?
    Motherhood is the hardest job EVER. Knowing that my children need and look to me for answers and guidance gets me through each day. Every time I see them being kind and helpful to other people is a reminder that I am doing a great job and that I just have to keep doing what I am doing. Their smiles and hearing "I love you mommy" gets me through every day.

    9. What makes you grateful about motherhood?
    I am grateful that motherhood has taught me, unconditional love. That even on my not so great mommy days, I can look into the eyes of my children and see the love and that I am their world. Motherhood also taught me that I am strong and worthy of true love and happiness.

    10. What is one thing you would tell a new or expecting Mother?
    The one thing that I would tell a new or expecting mother would be that it truly takes a village to raise a child. Above all else, what your child needs most is a healthy mommy, surround yourself with a great support system and do not be afraid to ask for help. 



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  • Monday, March 12, 2018 8:44 AM | Christina (Administrator)

    Life With A Baby is turning 10. To celebrate, we are excited to share with you insights from 10 different Moms, answering 10 questions honestly. 


    Kim B.

    Kim B is a mother of "two crazy boys", Brindle who just turned 2 (December) and Nolan who is 6 months (February).  She's from Everett a small town just south of Barrie.  She is self employed helping kids stay active, running not for profit soccer leagues, as well as helping families get the sleep they so need, and supporting parents through my Sleep Coaching business, "BabyZzz".  When she has time to tale a break, she enjoys taking some stress out on the ball hockey rink with a nice cold one afterwards.

      

    1. How would you describe yourself before having a baby?
    I guess you could say I was very career driven (always pushing for the next step in my career), hard working, and extremely organized.  I was definitely a "YES" women when it came to professional and personal relationships.  If things needed to get done, I would make it happen.  I had a fear of missing out ("FOMO" as I call it when talking about my kids, who clearly have it as well).  I was constantly on the go and kept very busy.  Always at almost every social gathering I was invited to, would head up planning tons of events with friends/family/coworkers, and involved in almost every aspect of the organizations I worked within.  Communication was huge for me, I was the main communicator, I feel like in every aspect of my life.  Working in the not for profit and sports world,  I didn't have your typical 9-5 job.  I put in most of my waking moments helping different not for profit soccer leagues run as smoothly and organized as possible.  It was a lifestyle for me, not just a job, and I too volunteered a ton of my time.  My husband luckily supporting this, and he kept busy volunteer coaching for a high level hockey team.  At times it felt like we barely saw each other, let alone sat down for a meal together.  It was all about keeping the kids in the community active, having fun, and reaching their dreams.  All the while making it as easy as possible on the parents to be able to allow their children to stay active, giving equal opportunity to every child.  I'm a true believer that sports prepares kids for so many aspect of adulthood.  There are many tools I learnt growing up playing sports that have been invaluable to me in my marriage, my friendships, during motherhood, and my working life.  There was a time in my life I didn't even think I wanted kids.  I had no clue how I would adjust my life to fit them into it.  I also was not confident what so ever in the skills that came along with being a mom.  I hated the thought of being pregnant and the things I would miss out on during pregnancy, but motherhood as well.  I didn't know how you could have a career, take time for yourself, keep a household going, and be a great mother, all at the same time.  This was a real fear for me.      

    2. How would you describe yourself after having a baby?
    I feel like I don't even know or remember the pre-baby Kim.  I have no idea how I got to become this new version of me during the process of becoming a mom, and really it's only been just over 2 years in this new role.  I love spending time at home with my family.  I would barely ever stick around the house before, was constantly out and about, and if I did have a night home, I didn't know what to do with myself.  I don't have as much of a fear of missing out on things, I guess because I feel like the most important things in my life are right in front of me, my two boys and my wonderful husband.  I'm all about relax time and down time, I don't fill my calendar months and months in advance, I look forward to that blank day to do nothing.  I've learnt to say the word "NO" in professional and personal relationships, and put the well being of my family directly in front of anything else.  I have motherly instincts, no idea how they came to the surface, as I didn't think I had any motherly abilities what so ever before, but they are very apparent now.  I appreciate the little things so much more now, and these little things stop me in my tracks, I take that moment to take them in when I can.  I would have never been interested before in helping/supporting mothers, but have recently started a business where I'm doing just that, and feel so much confidence in doing so.  I have huge dreams for this new business and really want to turn it into a huge supportive community for all things parenting, throwing judgement out the window totally.  I manage my time the best I can, it's no where near as efficient as I used to be, but I do what I can, when I can and try not to beat myself up over things that don't get checked off my to do list in a timely manner.  I'm super exciting for the years to come, watching my boys grow, and still forming into this new "after baby" Kim that I'm beginning to love.                       


    3. What is one thing you miss about your pre-baby life?
    I miss the feeling of being totally organized with all aspects of my life.  The freedom to stay late at work if needed to stay organized and on track, or get things done exactly when I want/need to get things done.  The freedom basically to do what I want, when I want personally and professionally.  The freedom to take that break for myself when things got stressful, unorganized and tiring, to refuel and help to be a better person moving forward.      


    4. What is one thing you wish someone prepared you for, when it comes to Motherhood?
    There is definitely a long list of things I wish someone prepared me for or talked to me about with regards to motherhood.  If I'd have to pick just one it would be "mom guilt" that is apparent each and every day.  It can be the littlest amount of mom guilt, from when you snapped back at your wee one for spilling cookie crumbs on the sofa, to a big amount of mom guilt surrounding leaving the kids for a weekend to head away on a much needed, long awaited time away with just you and your hubby.  Mom guilt comes in all shapes and sizes each and every day of motherhood.  I don't feel like we are prepared for it at all, and I'm not too sure how to help moms manage it fully, but I think throwing any sort of judgement to moms out the window would be a great start!

    5. How has Motherhood changed you?
    The changes have been night and day, I don't even recognize myself most days.  I'm still looking ahead at the next step in my career, but from a perspective that I want to support and provide for my children, and show them what hard work looks like all the while being flexible enough to be there for them when they need me.  My to do list definitely is longer then normal, as I'm not as productive to cross things off.  I'm not as organized, or have it all together like I used to, and some days that frustrates me like crazy.  I'm no longer a "plan months in advance"  girl, and more a plan 3-4 days ahead max.  I'm also totally OK with weekends or days when I have nothing scheduled in my calendar.  I don't feel confident as a mom what so ever, but there are times I feel more confident as a person if that makes any sense at all.  I feel so loved and supported, more then ever before.  Loved from my kids, more love & support from my husband, but the biggest change is the love, support, and deep connections I feel from my support system surrounding me.  This includes some great mom friends, the connection we have is unimaginable and the pre-baby Kim never ever felt connections like this.  


    6. Do you feel like you have “balance” in your life and why?
    HECK NO!  I find it tremendously hard to juggle every single aspect of life and keep things in balance.  To as little as putting gas in the car or even putting out the garbage.  From job responsibilities, building a business, meals for myself and my family, grocery shopping, keeping up with the duties within my home, time for me and hubby, time to be there for and see friends/extended family, taking care of me time, and the list goes on and on.  Then on top of that you are trying to keep tiny little humans alive and healthy, giving them the best possible life you dream of for them.  I'm also constantly battling how I can provide for them, but be present for them at the same time.  This has definitely been a struggle for me trying to balance.  I keep saying I hope things will level out soon, when I get into a better routine hopefully I'll feel more balance, or maybe as the kids get older, it'll be easier to balance things out.  I really don't know if that will be the case though and don't see how things can change to become more balanced unfortunately.         


    7. What helped get you through the postpartum transition into Motherhood?
    This time seems to be such a blur and I guess I'm somewhat still in it with my second being just 6 months.  I feel like just taking one day, or even hour at a time is key.  Concentrating on what is important (your physical and mental health, and your kids).  Looking at what is right in front of you, while not trying to worry or stress about other aspects of your life that can be pushed off, or aren't as important in that moment of time.  It's been a life saver hiring a cleaner to come once a month to thoroughly clean my house, highly recommend this if possible as it's a huge stress relief.  I also prepped a ton of freezer meals and stalked up my freezer, meal prep is huge for me to be able to get through the weeks!  Keeping things simple, making sure to take even just 5 minutes for yourself to breath deeply, and not bothering with things that are not worth the huge effort/stress anymore.  My mom friends play a huge roll during this time period, always checking in on me, showing they care, and allowing you to be totally vulnerable, open and honest with one another, without any judgement.  I have mom friends who are at similar stages with their own children, and it helps venting to each other or chatting about day to day stuff that takes place.  I also have mom friends who have older children, they have been at this stage in life before, they have the expertise to give you great suggestions, but because their kids are older they can be a huge support as they have more flexibility and time to give.  Giving you breaks when you need it, reminding you how hard of a time it is and that it does get easier, making you a home cooked meal, or at get-togethers they have the extra hands to help with anything at all, even just baby cuddles.     


    8. Motherhood is hard. What gets you through each day, day after day?
    Knowing that there are little humans depending on me.  I have to keep pushing through for them, be there for them when they need me, no matter the time of day.  They are only little for so long, and knowing this, trying not to miss out on each stage.  Trying to enjoy it, take it all in, because it will be a distant memory in no time, and I will miss these days when they are gone I'm sure.  I live for my breaks as well, even 5-10 minutes of me time.  I find play dates with my great mom friends are breaks in it's self, and get me through the tough days and weeks.  I have to praise my hubby also, he truly helps a ton.  Having that team of mom and dad together as one, constantly tag teaming and being there for one another has been so amazing on those hard hard days.     


    9. What makes you grateful about motherhood?
    The unimaginable, deep connections I feel each and every day, with my husband, my kids and mom friendships.  I feel like I wouldn't have ever felt this level of connection with anyone, if it wasn't for having kids.  I know for sure before kids I didn't have it within most of my friendships.  My husband, and I have formed such a much deeper bond as well.  The happiness and excitement my kids show towards me every single day, when they miss me after they just got up from sleeping, or see me after being apart from one another for even just a few hours.  Seeing how your children form their own personalities and become their own self, knowing you have had a huge influence in all aspects of their life, and that personality they have grown into.  The feeling of wanting to strive to be the best version of myself for my family and provide the best possible life full of love, opportunity, and support for my kids.  

    10. What is one thing you would tell a new or expecting Mother?
    Hang in there.  The days will be long and hard, you will be exhausted like never before and want to give up so many times.  Lean on your support system, your village around you, as much as you can.  Don't try to be a "tough guy" and do it all alone, know you aren't alone and don't have to do it alone.  Try to take the breaks you need with as little GUILT as possible. 







    #MomTruth #LWAB10 #MomConfessions #Motherhood #MomBlog #MommyLove #HonestMotherhood #HonestMom #IAmMom

  • Sunday, March 11, 2018 8:00 AM | Christina (Administrator)

    Life With A Baby is turning 10. To celebrate, we are excited to share with you insights from 10 different Moms, answering 10 questions honestly. 




    Jessica M.


    Jessica is a wife and first time mother to a beautiful baby girl. She is a teacher, but would love to be a stay at home mom once her maternity leave is over.

    1. How would you describe yourself before having a baby?
    Before having my daughter I would tell people that I was a generally happy person. I would tell them that I love my job and what I do and that I was lucky to have found a career that I love. 

    2. How would you describe yourself after having a baby?
    Since my daughter has been born, my answer is different everyday. Some days are exhausting and extremely trying, while others are so great I forget about the bad days, but I’m always proud to tell people “I’m a mom.” For me, being a wife and a mom are my number one priorities. 

    3. What is one thing you miss about your pre-baby life?
    I miss my friends. Being the first of my friends to be married and have a baby is hard on a friendship, it doesn’t mean that the friendship is over although it changes the relationship you have with that friend. 

    4. What is one thing you wish someone prepared you for, when it comes to Motherhood?
    It would have been nice to have some insight on where to find mom groups and places to go with your baby to meet other moms and babies. It was 3 months before I found mom groups and things to do.

    5. How has Motherhood changed you?
    I always wanted to be a mom, since I was a little girl, I wanted to grow up and be a mom. Since having my baby, I feel complete. I thought I loved the career I had, but now I realize I was meant to be a mom.I feel happier and more confident in who I am since having my baby. 

    6. Do you feel like you have “balance” in your life and why?
    Yes and no. Some days I feel like I have everything figured out, I feel like “super mom.” I have the house tidy, dinner prepped and ready for when my husband gets home, and even the baby is happy, fed and playing. Other days it feels like a whirlwind of emotions and a million things that need to be done. The laundry is pilling up in the baskets, baby and I are still in our pyjamas at 3pm, the dog has to go for a walk still, dinner hasn’t even been thought about, the list goes on. Finding balance is hard. I guess I have a good balance of “together” days and crazy days, but I don’t have balance each and every day.

    7. What helped get your through the postpartum transition to Motherhood?
    Having my mom around helped me a lot. She was there when I needed her to be, but she was never around more than I needed. My mom was some how able to be around the perfect amount of time, enough that I loved having her around to help and yet never a minute more than that (because I never got to the point of being frustrated with her being around). My mom would come over and would just keep me company at first when I didn’t know any other moms or have anywhere to go to talk to people. 

    8. Motherhood is hard. What gets you through each day, day after day?
    Having my husband be involved has made Motherhood SO much easier. In the beginning he would get up with our daughter in the night to change her diaper and then he would bring her back to me to feed her. He helped share the work load.

    9. What makes you grateful about Motherhood?
    Everything. Seeing my baby grow everyday and learn new skills. Realizing that she loves me more than any words could ever explain (even though I know exactly what that’s like because I feel that kind of love for her). 

    10. What is one thing you would tell a new or expecting Mother?
    Whatever you’re wondering about, ask. There are so many unexpected, strange and unknown things about pregnancy and babies so if you’re wondering something, ask someone. 





    #HonestMom #LWAB10 #MomConfessions #MomTruth #MomTruths #ConfessionsOfAMom #Motherhood


  • Saturday, March 10, 2018 8:00 AM | Christina (Administrator)

    Life With A Baby is turning 10.  To celebrate, we are excited to share with you insights from 10 different Moms, answering 10 questions honestly.


    Leigh D.

    Leigh lives in beautiful Muskoka with her husband, two daughters, and a mini dachshund.  She is currently on maternity leave with her almost 8 month old.  When she’s not chasing after two tiny humans, Leigh keeps busy with her creative outlets: baking (Comfort Bakeshop), jewellery (Leigh Frances Jewellery), and blogging (Bad Moms Canada).


    1. How would you describe yourself before having a baby?
    I would say that I was more relaxed and carefree before having a baby.  Definitely more selfish, in the sense that I could just do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted (no schedule).  Sometimes the responsibility that comes along with parenting can be overwhelming. 

    2. How would you describe yourself after having a baby?
    After having a baby, I’m a lot more tired (aren’t we all?!).  Parenting can be exhausting.  On a positive note, I’ve become a lot better at multi-tasking and juggling more things than I thought I could handle.   


    3. What is one thing you miss about your pre-baby life?

    I miss being more carefree and spontaneous.  Last-minute road trips or going out for dinner still happen with children, it just requires more planning or arranging childcare.  Waking up whenever I want, going where I want – basically anything that just requires worrying about myself is something that I miss sometimes.  Life was definitely easier/simpler before children.


    4. What is one thing you wish someone prepared you for when it comes to Motherhood?
    Honestly, I’m not sure if you can truly be prepared for Motherhood.  For me, it was such a difficult transition that I wasn’t expecting, and I don’t think that anyone could have prepared me for that.  Motherhood can be strange - no one really knows how being a Mother will change them, until they become one.  

    5. How has Motherhood changed you?

    I’ve always been a very empathetic person, and Motherhood has made me even more so.  I feel like Motherhood is the great equalizer among women.  At the end of the day, I think everyone is just trying to do their best, to be the best Mom they can be.  I’ve become more supportive of all Mothers that I meet.  It’s the hardest job I’ve ever had, and also the most rewarding.


    6. Do you feel like you have “balance” in your life and why?

    This is a tough one to answer.  Overall, I do feel like I have balance in my life; however, I don’t always feel this way on a daily basis.  I always say, “I’ve got some of my $h*t together, some of the time”.  Let me explain.  Some days, it’s hard to feel like you’ve had enough time to do all of the things that you want or need to do (e.g., get enough sleep, eat healthfully, exercise, play with your kids, carve out quality time with your partner, etc.).  Other days, you feel like a champion if you’ve put away the laundry!  It really depends on the day.  For me, I need to remind myself that it’s impossible to do all the things, all the time, in a single day.  It’s definitely challenging to achieve that balance.  Overall, if you prioritize spending time on things that are important to you, or on things that make you happy, then you can feel balanced.


    7. What helped get you through the postpartum transition into Motherhood?

    Having a supportive “village” - partner, family and friends, and a wonderful team of professionals (midwives and my family doctor) helped me through the postpartum transition.  I experienced Postpartum Depression and Postpartum Anxiety following the birth of both of my children, with varying symptoms and severity each time.  The first time, I was not myself at all, so I wasn’t easily able to identify that I needed help.  I really relied on those closest to me to advocate for me and get me the help I needed.  The second time, I could feel myself slipping and I knew that I needed to get help.  I was really honest with myself and those around me, and it allowed me to get help sooner than later.  Having people in your life that you can be yourself with really helps.  I’m lucky to have amazing friends and family that would regularly check in with me, and ask me the tough questions (e.g., how is your mental health?). 


    8. Motherhood is hard. What gets you through each day, day after day?

    Motherhood IS hard!  I think it can be hard for all Mothers, whether we like to admit it or not.  Knowing that I’m never alone, that we all struggle in our own ways, is something that helps me get through the tough days.  Having fellow mom friends that you can be honest with is one of the most important things for me.  Motherhood is like a rollercoaster, with lots of ups and downs.  Just like anything else in life.  When you’re having a tough moment or a tough day, knowing that it will pass helps to keep things in perspective.  Along with all the hard moments of Motherhood, there are so many wonderful moments too.


    9. What makes you grateful about motherhood?

    I feel really fortunate to have two healthy children.  Seeing their smiles, and the wonderful, unique qualities and personalities that they each have makes me so happy.  Children are the best teachers, so I feel grateful to have the experience of being a mother. 

     

    10. What is one thing you would tell a new or expecting Mother?
    This is what I always tell new or expecting Mothers: be patient with yourself during the “fourth trimester” (aka the first 3 months).  There will be really tough days, and you will get through them all.  You will figure it all out in time, so be gentle with yourself while you work through all of the challenges in the early days.  

    #Motherhood #HonestMotherhood #TruthBomb #LifeWithABaby #LWAB10 #ConfessionsOfAMom #MomConfessions #Family #IAmMom


  • Friday, March 09, 2018 8:00 AM | Christina (Administrator)

    Life With A Baby is turning 10.  To celebrate, we are excited to share with you insights from 10 different Moms, answering 10 questions honestly.



    SARAH M. 

    Sarah is a mom to 5 boys (9-8-7-6-4). Radio news announcer and administrator for a local midwifery practice. Hobbies include baking bread, fermenting and riding a rad scooter.

    1. How would you describe yourself before having a baby?
    I was Organized, controlled, private.

    2. How would you describe yourself after having a baby?
    I am open & honest.

    3. What is one thing you miss about your pre-baby life?
    I miss sleep.

    4. What is one thing you wish someone prepared you for, when it comes to Motherhood?
    The ultimate loss of control

    5. How has Motherhood changed you?
    I’ve really solidified my personal philosophies (the why stage does that) and gained such a deep understanding of myself.

    6. Do you feel like you have “balance” in your life and why?
    Yes! I have a very supportive partner and we have a mutual vision of what our expectations are (it’s ever changing)

    7. What helped get you through the postpartum transition into Motherhood?
    Community, not every interaction led to a friendship, but every interaction was needed at the time.

    8. Motherhood is hard. What gets you through each day, day after day?
    Being part of a very interesting family.

    9. What makes you grateful about motherhood?
    Getting to really know myself, and making sure I stay grounded surrounded by my favourite people.

    10. What is one thing you would tell a new or expecting Mother?
    Be real, the more you share the more you’ll get back. Make a mom friend who “gets you”. Let your partner parent they way they do, you might learn something.



  • Thursday, March 08, 2018 8:00 AM | Christina (Administrator)
    Life With A Baby is turning 10.  To celebrate, we are excited to share with you insights from 10 different Moms, answering 10 questions honestly.


    Summer C
    Summer is a first-time Mom from Niagara Falls to a beautiful, stubborn baby boy and is a Stepmom to an equally as beautiful, sweet girl. She is currently on maternity leave until September. She loves to curl up and browse through Amazon for great toys and baby things, while watching her guilty pleasure channel TLC.
     

    1. How would you describe yourself before having a baby?
    I was more spontaneous. I wanted to go and do so many things. Go out for drinks, go to the casino, go shopping. I had very different priorities. Get the renos done with our house. Go to work and have fun with my husband. Buy a bottle of wine after work and just chill out. Stay up until stupid times watching movies or drinking or talking.

    2. How would you describe yourself after having a baby?

    I'm more reserved now. I was orderly before, but now with my son, I have a schedule. Instead of drinks, its a coffee. Instead of the casino, it's baby talk groups. Instead of shopping for me, its diapers and wipes and baby food. My priorities are not renos. It's putting together the new exersaucer. Now I don't go to work. I go to a crib to work for the wonderful baby I've brought into this world. I still have fun with my husband, it's just spent together on the couch with two wonderful children between us instead of a pool table. And I do stay up, But I'm watching a baby monitor, drinking a big glass of water and talking about the newest struggle or newest skill baby James has acquired.


    3. What is one thing you miss about your pre-baby life?
    In a way, I miss not having someone depend on me and not having to worry about someone else's well-being but my own. Don't get me wrong. I love my son and I wouldn't change that for the world. But I do sometimes miss not having to do laundry every day so we both have clean clothes that aren't spit up on; being able to sleep for however long I wanted. 

    4. What is one thing you wish someone prepared you for, when it comes to Motherhood?
    The emotions. The baby blues were horrendous. Going from being excited, to depressed,  to angry,  to flat all in 10 minutes. I thought I was going crazy. And I wish someone prepared me for PPD. But There isn't much help or talk about that until, most times, it's too late and you think you're going crazy yelling at your husband and crying while you hold your baby at 3 in the morning. 

    5. How has Motherhood changed you?
    I'm more reliable now. I need to be reliable. I can't just flake or run away when there's a problem. More time oriented. I now truly see the meaning behind taking all the pictures. Wanting dinner time to be family time. I now know that its okay to ask for help. That I need it sometimes. Even if I don't want it. 


    6. Do you feel like you have “balance” in your life and why?
    HA! Balance? What's that? For me, since I chose to breastfeed, the scales all weigh closer in my son's direction. I do get loads of help from my family and especially my husband. But I don't feel like there's much balance for me and "me time". Unless I forfeit sleep or a shower (laughs). 


    7. What helped get you through the postpartum transition into Motherhood?
    My husband and my parents one hundred percent. Having them to help and talk to was my saving grace. I give kudos to all those women who are single moms who don't have the support that I did. 

    8. Motherhood is hard. What gets you through each day, day after day?
    Knowing I have a little person that I'm helping to mould into a human being. Hearing my husband say that he is proud of me for doing the things that I'm doing to get better. Seeing the amazing smile from my son next to me first thing in the morning. Hearing my stepdaughter giggle and coo over her little brother. There are so many things that get me through the daily struggles like no sleep, sore nipples, and dishes spilling out of the sink onto the counters.


    9. What makes you grateful about motherhood?
    I'm grateful that I get to watch my children grow. That I created that person or helped to raise that person. That I get to see their personalities develop. To see my son go from a helpless, tiny being to slowly becoming his own person. To see my stepdaughter go from a sweet little 4 year old who just started school and was so shy, to this wonderful first grader who is starting to open up to her surroundings and see the world differently every day. Watching my son learn to grab toys and trying to teach him to roll over.

    I'm grateful that I get to call them mine. And that they will be able to say that's my mama/ stepmom. 

    10. What is one thing you would tell a new or expecting Mother?
    Don’t be scared. Even though it's easier said than done. When someone asks if you need help WITH ANYTHING! Take it and let them help! And if you ever feel like something is wrong, whether it is with you or baby, whether it's how you feel emotionally or physically. Talk to someone, anyone. You are not alone. There are others who understand you and love you. There are many people who know you're a wonderful mom or will be and they want to see you succeed and be happy. I want to see you succeed and be happy. 


  • Wednesday, March 07, 2018 8:00 AM | Christina (Administrator)

    Life With A Baby is turning 10.  To celebrate, we are excited to share with you insights from 10 different Moms, answering 10 questions honestly.




    MALLORY C.
    Mallory is a single Mom of four children (5 months,6,8,11). She works in the community as a Family Service Worker with The Salvation Army. Her hobbies include drinking coffee and taking pictures. Although, if her children were asked, they would say her hobbies are cooking, doing dishes and laundry 
          

    1. How would you describe yourself before having a baby?
    I was a lot more calm and had a ton more patience. I was always babysitting and enjoyed being around kids.

    2. How would you describe yourself after having a baby?

    A little less patient and always tired. But not much different to be honest

    3. What is one thing you miss about your pre-baby life?
    Just getting up and going at the drop of a hat. And sleeping whenever I wanted....also having a clean house lolll

    4. What is one thing you wish someone prepared you for, when it comes to Motherhood?
    That you will never sleep again, lol

    5. How has Motherhood changed you?
    It has changed me for the best. I feel like i am better person. It's made me more assertive and outgoing.

    6. Do you feel like you have “balance” in your life and why?
    As for the balance between work, the kids, and keeping the house with a social life no lol......I don't really ever have me time or any sort of social life if it doesn't involve my kids or social media Lol, especially as a single mom its tough but I try to do small things like a nice walk or a drive which yes the kids are there but usually quiet or hot bubble bath when they are in bed.

    7. What helped get you through the postpartum transition into Motherhood?
    I'm very lucky to have some great friends and a very supportive mother. I always dreamed of being a mother and loved to be surrounded with kids, so I was so happy to finally be a mom. Also joining moms and tots groups in my community helped to meet other new moms as well and connect with some "new friends (it's hard to continue friendships with people who do not have children I found)

    8. Motherhood is hard. What gets you through each day, day after day?Very hard....sometimes I struggle more than other days and honestly can't wait until it's bedtime. I try to keep myself and kids busy every day to make the day go fast. Always remind myself that we all have bad days and its OK. Sometimes venting to friends especially ones in similar situations helps as well. Also, I started going to church after my 2nd child. I had never gone as a child, but for me being there and joining programs the church ran made me feel much more whole inside and much better about myself.

    9. What makes you grateful about motherhood?
    Everything. As hard and frustrating as it gets, just looking at my children makes me feel amazing. I've read a lot and know many women who have trouble conceiving or who have children who are sick. And me having been blessed with 4 healthy children makes me very grateful. 

    10. What is one thing you would tell a new or expecting Mother?
    To not "read" into it too much. There are no books with the right answers. No doctor who knows it all and no other mom who is living in your shoes. You know what is right and wrong for your child. There is no right or wrong answer also, you can plan all you want, but it will never work out that way. And always remember that having a bad day or feeling like giving up is normal and OK. You don't have to be a super mom......just be you, your child will love you unconditionally no matter what. Also in saying that it is OK to ask for help, it is OK to tell someone when you are struggling. Do not keep it in, if you have a friend or a Family member or ever your Dr or even a church pastor.






 

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