"I'll Buy You A Bigger House"

  • Saturday, July 17, 2010 12:57 AM
    Message # 385266

    “My daddy said he would buy me a bigger house!” said the 3 year old.  ”You tell ‘em sweety!” replies dear dad.  This is a portion of a conversation I overheard between a 3 year old little girl and her father.  It made me think about what’s missing from that conversation, I wonder if the lessons about what’s really important in life are provided.  Bigger houses are nice but I hope this little girl is learning about what’s real, I wonder if the dad realizes that he has fallen for the status quo and is transferring the same messages to the next generation.  What will this little girl come to know as meaningful in her life?

    What will other children come to know as real and meaningful in their lives?

    It’s important that we stop and ask ourselves if we’ve got it right and then and check in with our children and make sure they’ve got it right, make sure they know how to balance the material and the spiritual.

    We ought to enjoy the material world if we are blessed with beautiful things but not at the cost of our relationships and our children.

    Life values are a must, upgrades are optional.

  • Sunday, July 18, 2010 11:17 PM
    Reply # 386028 on 385266

    Its funny you mention this...my husband, just the other day, said "rich people are a$$#@*%s!" He of course doesn't believe that ALL rich people are bad, but that is what he said. He was also raised by a father who has some rather...lets say strong...opinions about other cultures and races....(I don't approve but at his age I doubt its going to change). Anyways...my husband saying this prompted a discussion about the type of language we use in front of our son. I might know that my hubby doesn't really hate everyone that is rich, but my son isn't old enough to know the difference between what was said and what was meant. We are now both going to try our best to not use language that judges anyone....I can't help what my husband may or may not think, but we want to raise our child to be as accepting of EVERYONE as possible so any opinions we have will be kept in our heads. I personally am trying to change the way I think to be non judgemental in every way...Im not racist or prejudice towards other cultures or anything like that, just trying to be more understanding of everything in general...hopefully the hubby does too!

     

    Its really hard in todays society to aviod negativity....the way people think and the things that they value are pretty twisted, but hopefully with more people understanding that we can raise a generation of kids that are smarter than we are, or our parents before us.

  • Monday, July 19, 2010 9:30 AM
    Reply # 386135 on 385266
    I love that you brought this up Kimberly, and I applaud you for what you're trying to do with language.  I'm doing the same thing with Olivia (well, and with everyone around me!).   Our language is a powerful tool that can be used to either hurt us (even very subtly) or to empower... 

    I've been looking at Marshall Rosenbergs Non-Violent Communication (www.cnvc.org) as a guide.  There are several publications for parenting specifically.

    I've also been reading The Indigo Children by Lee Carroll and Jan Tober as a guide to treating children with respect.

    We really are raising the next generation - hopefully towards peace and non-judgment - and if we become as aware as possible of what we do to either continue the cycles or stop them we are contributing to global shift.

    And we all that there are just as rotten rich people as there are poor ... it's people and perspective and the human condition.

    I'd love to continue a discussion on how we can pay more attention to our language and non-judgment.

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