Life With A Baby - Expectations v.s. Reality!

Sunday, February 22, 2009 9:38 AM

Message # 119144

Claire (Administrator)

When I had my daughter I thought I would be able to do it all, finish my CGA, keep a perfect house, get myself back into shape super fast etc...

So 20 months later, my house is still not perfect, even with having a maid on the weekends, I'm happy with my weight, but it took a lot more work than I thought it would, I have not even so much as registered for a course to finish my CGA, so what happened? Life happened - I see people like Angelina Jolie who have a baby and two months later they are back into shape and looking as fresh as ever! We could do that too right!, yes we could - IF and it's a big IF. If we had a nanny, a personal trainer, various people at our beck and call and oh yeah... the money to pay for all of this! he he

So what do I have? I have a lovely daughter who I adore and love beyond explanation and even though there are other things I want to do, right now I'm trying to just enjoy being a mom and hope that everything else will fall into place.

What's were your expectations?

Last modified: Sunday, February 22, 2009 9:38 AM | Claire (Administrator)

Thursday, October 29, 2009 8:35 PM

Reply # 237406 on 119144

Dar

I thought that when my son could sit by himself, he would be content playing by himself more and not needing me to watch over him all the time. The opposite is true! Now that he can sit with no problems, he is trying to crawl, and trying to stand, and hitting his head while doing it. So I need to watch him even more closely now than ever. I can't even leave him to play by himself while I cook because a few minutes into the chopping/cooking, he will cry because he hit his head on the ground while lunging to get some toy beyond his reach.

May be he will be able to play by himself longer when he is 6 years old??!! :-)

Friday, March 05, 2010 11:06 AM

Reply # 303196 on 119144

Deleted user

This may sound silly but I kept all my expectations at a low and lived one day at a time since I had my eldest. Took a keen attention and found happiness looking after my kids and keeping a pleasant home. Keeping my personal goals and creative passions going a bit, but my time table has been extremely flexible. Frustrating sometimes but I have resolved that my kids come first. I just want to make the most of the opportunity to be a great mom knowing how driven and distracted I can get with a career. I'm hoping that when we all have grown much older my kids, husband, and I would have established that strong connection and even if we drift apart a little in our pursuits we'd still be drawn together. As for me, I just don't wanna look back with regrets years from now.

Last modified: Friday, March 05, 2010 11:06 AM | Deleted user

Sunday, May 02, 2010 8:06 PM

Reply # 334518 on 119144

Ellen Clendining

Claire (Alexia) Zlobin wrote:When I had my daughter I thought I would be able to do it all, finish my CGA, keep a perfect house, get myself back into shape super fast etc...

So 20 months later, my house is still not perfect, even with having a maid on the weekends, I'm happy with my weight, but it took a lot more work than I thought it would, I have not even so much as registered for a course to finish my CGA, so what happened? Life happened - I see people like Angelina Jolie who have a baby and two months later they are back into shape and looking as fresh as ever! We could do that too right!, yes we could - IF and it's a big IF. If we had a nanny, a personal trainer, various people at our beck and call and oh yeah... the money to pay for all of this! he he

So what do I have? I have a lovely daughter who I adore and love beyond explanation and even though there are other things I want to do, right now I'm trying to just enjoy being a mom and hope that everything else will fall into place.

What's were your expectations?

I had the same expectations about my son being born, and unfortunatley still do. He is 5 months old and I thought that I should be able to keep the apartment spotless, make sure breakfast, lunch and dinner are made for my partner and his work clothes are ready for the week, plus keep myself looking just as put together as before baby came along and have a beautiful, happy and healthy baby. All with a smile on my face. Today everything came to a bit of a crashing halt. Our beautiful boy doesn't sleep for longer than 3 hours at a time, no matter what we try and after those first 3 hours, he wakes every 1 to 1 and a half hours. Needless to say, we are running on empty at this point and as hard as I try, my own expectations are not being met. So, definitely time to lower them a little! :)

I must say though, we do have a wonderful baby boy who I love more than I could ever have imagined and my partner has been amazing with helping through the nights.

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