Nina Sy wrote:Taking care of the baby and the housekeeping are enough to keep us busy through the day. However, for some reason, we still feel BORED.  Are you?  How do you cope?

I am still working this one out.  I absolutely find the housekeeping and childminding boring most of the time.  The only time I'm stimulated is when I get to be with other adults (with or without children).  Because I'm on my second child, I know that I am not made to be a full-time stay at home mom, just a part-time one.  Presently, I feel like I'm drowning in things I don't like to do!  Can't wait to get back to work part-time so I can enjoy this parenting thing again. (And I know it's bad to say, but I can't wait until my baby is two because that's when I really started enjoying things with my first!)

 

Anonymous wrote:

Nina Sy wrote:Taking care of the baby and the housekeeping are enough to keep us busy through the day. However, for some reason, we still feel BORED.  Are you?  How do you cope?

I am still working this one out.  I absolutely find the housekeeping and childminding boring most of the time.  The only time I'm stimulated is when I get to be with other adults (with or without children).  Because I'm on my second child, I know that I am not made to be a full-time stay at home mom, just a part-time one.  Presently, I feel like I'm drowning in things I don't like to do!  Can't wait to get back to work part-time so I can enjoy this parenting thing again. (And I know it's bad to say, but I can't wait until my baby is two because that's when I really started enjoying things with my first!)

 

Hello "A"
I will admit that I found the housekeeping booring... but seriously who doesn't? I never heard any woman speaking excitedly about doing the househould chores... so what I do it I listen to music or I find some way to make it interesting.  When I'm doing the dishes I put extra cream on my hands and then put gloves on... when I'm finished washing the dishes in all that warm water, my hands feel like they got a little mini pamper session and they are nice and soft.  Sometimes if I'm doing the dishes I'll catch up with my friends on the phone or listen to music or an audio book.  I pretty much did most of my chores at night when dad was home so that he could check on Katelyn if she woke up, but most importantly, so dad could HELP :-) No need for me to do all the work... I was working all day taking care of our daughter.

Regarding taking care of my baby, I never did find that booring, sometimes scary, sometimes frustrating... but didn't have time to even think about being bored :-) However, I was OUT of the house most of the time. There are many programs for moms and babies that are free, going for a walk is always rejuvenating to the mind and the exercise is great for the extra baby weight. Programs at the library, parent and tot swim... if there was a program to go to I was there... not to mention the many mommy meetups and playdates. Since you find adult conversation stimulating why not get out with the baby and go to mommy and baby events? (btw, there is only soo much goo-goo-gaa-gaa one can do in a day, so I feel you...)

If you want to know about the free programs and events that are in your area, just let me know what area you are and I can send you the info... if you want to know where you can get more support and resources, feel free to send me a confidential email to info@lifewithababy.com

Thanks
Claire

BTW, moms... what are some ways that you make househould chores fun? 

well... I'm back at work, M-F, 9-5. My house is starting to look like one giant pile of "stuff". I wish I could just have one day off so that I can do everything properly, without a rush (and the frustration that follows the rushing). But probably tonight, when I come home absolutely exhausted from work, and will try to squeeze some dinner creativity out of my brain, the floors and the laundry and the rest of the stuff will have to wait till tomorrow. Again!

...and if in my house these things can wait, then for all the stay-at-home mommies - you feel frustrated, go for a walk! indoors, outdoors - you are free to take your baby and get out. The housework will be there. You can do it any time! You don't feel like doing it today, don't! I really miss those days when the only schedule I conformed to was my baby's, and the day was free to do whatever and whenever...

I think the only solution to all of the above, which I find absolutely true too - boring!, is to try to find new friends and meet with other moms more often.

We just moved to this area a couple of months  ago. My daughter and I are now going to local EYC, but I have to admit that I cannot always fit those trips in well with her schedule and so they happen not as often as I wish.

I would love to meet some moms in the area with kids between 6 and 12 months who would want to get together at home for a play date. Kids can play, and we could make new friends. I find that moms can relate to each other very well, because we all face similar issues, so I always made friends really quickly with moms I met after Eva was born.

Some advantages to this:

- meet people in a comfortable environment

- not have the kids exposed to too many people at the same time (I am thinking about the flu season!:)

- not having to drive too far and being more flexible on time, which would mean less naps skipped and more awake time spent playing for kids and socializing for moms

So if anyone is interested, let me know. I'd love to meet new people. (I'm between Dufferin and Major Mac with Rutherford in the middle).

Anna

 

Being at home all day does give me a cabin fever and with the weather sometimes creating all those hassles to step out, argh!  What I've decided to do in the past couple of weeks was get back in my active routine despite my post-partum physique, i.e. being overweight and totally out of shape. I've been sweating the badminton courts and yoga studios with my bellyfat sticking out - hellya, I don't care!  LOL  But, geez, probably I need more of RMT sessions.  I think that healing touch can really help me get reconnected or whatever.  And, oh yeah, meet-ups with friends!  You're right, it really is rejuvenating. How else do you pull yourself out of the rut?  :-)