After a week of fairly unsuccessful attempt at Ferberizing our 9 months old, I made an appointment with our pediatrician on Thursday, with the expectation of getting a referral to a couple of sleep therapists...
What I got was a 10 mins verbal spanking on why my daughter was the way she was, which was because we enabled her by giving her what she wanted (picking her up, cuddling, nursing, even bed sharing at times), followed by a 30 mins thorough discussion on the Extinction Method of sleep training.
I left the office, completely shocked and mortified. That evening, during dinner, I had a discussion with my husband about the methodology of this crazy idea...then we just said "What the F do we have to loose, more sleep???" We put our daughter to bed at 7:45pm, shut her door, and did not come back until 5:00am following morning.
We peaked through the crack a couple of times in the middle of the night, and what we saw was a very stubborn girl sitting in her crib, but swaying back and forth, desperately keeping herself awake, every once in a while, she'd jerk herself awake and continue to cry...
Last night, we did the same thing, this time around, her cries were slightly shorter, but nevertheless still persistent. at around midnight, we physically walked into her bedroom, and saw that she was sleeping, but in a sitting position, and that her upper body had tipped forward so that her forehead was against her mattress. Throughout the night, I could hear a couple of times she woke up, but she quickly settled. We have no clue whether she'd been sleeping or just hanging out while she's not crying...but as per doctors orders, we weren't going to let her see us while she's awake until the morning.
She's one tired baby during the day, but based on the 1st and 2nd night, there's already been a difference...our pediatrician guarantees that the most stubborn of them all will come around within a week, but most are trained within 4 days. We're 2 days down so far...
I swore I was never going to be the mom who would exercise any sort of crying when it came to sleep...it took a lot in us to decide on following what the doctor told us to do...
What's most reassuring for me is that in the two days we've let her cry it out, at 7:00am, she sees us, and her cry face turns into the biggest smiles ever, so that makes me realize that we're not doing so-called harm to her.
I'm also extremely thankful for a couple of the moms in the LWB community that I've been able to discuss this with, they know who they are :)