Extinction Method

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  • Monday, August 13, 2012 8:36 PM
    Reply # 1046259 on 1024582
    She definitely takes stubbornness to a whole new level...I'm really looking forward to her toddler years (yah right!)

    I have a feeling the 'terrible twos' (as my 22-month-old is doing now) are going to be an interesting 'challenge' for you... ;)  (If she's going to be in daycare, that might help a lot, however, as I'm also finding out just now.)

    Good work on the sleep training though; you've done really well, considering how stubborn she is! At the very least, she is now sleeping by herself, in her own crib and room, and understands that's how it should be.
  • Monday, August 13, 2012 10:05 PM
    Reply # 1046333 on 1024582

    Wow, this sounds so foreign to me.  Are the babies involved in this method of sleep training only children?  If I did this with my 9 month old the whole family would be in there seeing what is wrong.  I believe this is a normal response within the family.  Everyone gathers around the family member who needs help.  A baby crying needs a responsive person to meet this need.  It is a need, not a want, not a manipulation not poor sleeping habits.  Babies are designed to wake up.  This is a built in mechanism to prevent SIDS.  Co-sleeping and breastfeeding have been shown to reduce SIDS.  Co-sleeping when done safely.  A normal full nights sleep according to some experts is only 5 hours for babies. 

    I am not sure what all the fuss is about with sleep training.  What is the rush?

  • Monday, August 13, 2012 11:34 PM
    Reply # 1046411 on 1024582
    There is no 'fuss' here at all; just an alternative method to deal with the 'wake up every 1-2 hours' that some babies develop out of habit, and not need, that can negatively affect not only the baby (waking up every 1-2 hours is not normal, nor adequate) but the whole family as well (and hence their ability to care for the baby in the first place).
  • Tuesday, August 14, 2012 8:14 AM
    Reply # 1046749 on 1024582
    I was in no rush to sleep train my daughter, in fact, I never thought I'd ever sleep train her, because I didn't believe in the CIO method. That being said, I'm also very flexible to change when situations aren't going the way you want them to go. It's one thing if your child wants to sleep in the same bed as you, But when the only scene that would "help" your 9 months old go to sleep is sleeping in our bed with her mouth and hands glued to your breast, that to me, isn't a need, but simply a want.

    She hasn't turned into the perfect sleeper with no wake ups at all, in fact, we know she wakes up a few times a night, but the fact is, she no longer uses us as her crutch to go back to sleep. Cry she may, and cry she will, but at least she can put herself back to sleep.

    One thing we noticed as a result of the sleep training, is that she no longer will take a pacifier. I gave it to her on a couple of occasions in the beginning of our sleep training period, and she would take it and angrily whip it away from her. So since then, we haven't brought the pacifier out, and she seems to be doing ok without it.
    Last modified: Tuesday, August 14, 2012 8:20 AM | Sandy
  • Tuesday, August 14, 2012 10:04 PM
    Reply # 1047329 on 1024582
    I respect each mothers' choice of how to raise their child/ren.  Each mother must do what is best for her and her family.  I have been on the edge of insanity with all three of my boys, aged 10, 6, and 9months old.  We have a family full of poor sleepers, ranging from immediate to extended family.  My boys could not sleep throughout the night until past the age of two.  Then they woke to use the bathroom, then bad dreams and sleep walking.  There is always something.  Sleep training is a temporary fix.  Each phase of babyhood and toddlerhood on up will necessitate  retraining if you will.  I don't want new moms to get the idea that once baby is trained it is smooth sailing.  Good luck to each mom in her nighttime parenting adventures!
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