I need HELP!
My super active 18 months old daughter just refuses to sleep. It is taking her 1-2 hrs to fall asleep. I am trying to to help her learn to fall asleep on her own as well as sleep early. I can't do "the cry it out" method so I have been trying the gentle approach, but I am going nuts. She still does cry , but I go in to reassure her. VERY VERY OFTEN. She is not sleeping through the night. She is down to nursing 2x/day (1 before bed and 1 in the middle of the night). She is being weaned off.
This is the schedule that I have been trying to follow for a week now (prior to this I was trying something else for about 2wks).
7:30 wake-up/breakfast
9/9:30 snack
11am lunch
11:30 start nap routine( story, cuddle, sound wave music)
11:45am in crib
At this point, she will be jumping and bouncing, singing out loud, calling me, calling daddy, cry, and etc...
Oh did I mention that she will also have a bowel movement. Since starting the sleep training, she has decided that 99.9999999% of the time she will ONLY have her bowel movements when she is put in her crib to fall alseep. Sometimes she will repeat this 2x. Because of this bowel movement I frequently have to go in and check. There have been times that she may have calmed down, but then I end up going in. How do I manage this part? I have no choice. It is unpredictable the exact time that she will do this, so I frequently have to go in. I am trying to teach her to say pooh pooh when she does. I
Sometimes she just won't take her nap.
Since she usually takes 1hr to fall asleep, I will leave her in the crib for this length of time and if she is not sleeping (most often NOT) I have been trying to take her out for a 15-20 minutes stroller walk. This walk helps with her nap, but the weather is getting colder.
1-2pm usually naps 90% of the time on her own (1-4hrs sometimes). I hate this, but I have been trying to wake her up at 4/4:30. I really hate waking her up when she is sleeping in the morning and during her nap.
4:30/4:45pm dinner
6/6:15pm snack
6:30/6:45 start bath and bed time routine.
7-7:45pm in crib
At this point 99.999% of the time, she is jumping, bouncing, cry, singing and etc..
And oh the BOWEL movement. CAN'T FORGET THAT.
Any where from 8:30-10pm she will fall asleep, but this is after numerous reassurances.
I am trying but I am getting ready to quit. WHAT AM I DOING WRONG?
Any ideas?
Linda