Last week, I was going along fine and then.... FREAK OUT! Though, I'm not sure if it's still a freak out if no one is around to see it.

What happened? I wanted to have a fun day out with the kids just the two of us. I told them they were in charge of the day, and I'd try to do as many of the activities they wanted to do as possible. Naturally, I was out ALL day! These kids have a lot of energy.

Luckily, it was Friday, and they were going to Grandma's for a sleepover. I got home after dropping them off to the grandparents for the evening, and the living room was in disarray from the kids building forts and playing in the morning.

Surprise, surprise it was exactly as I had left it in the morning.

And, the sink is full of dishes - and it is my day to do them.

And, I had to do laundry. So much laundry - why is there always laundry to do? I just did it last weekend!

I started cleaning up, and I get a text message from hubby asking if I planned anything for us the night. I forgot it was my turn to plan date-night. And truth be told I didn't want to go out I'm was tired from the all the activities.

So, I call him to see how long he was going to be and ask him to pick up wine.

AND THEN IT HAPPENED!!!

I found out he is golfing. GOLFING! I said, "OK, see you soon." AND then I had a little tantrum, stopped loading the laundry, wrote a long text which I promptly deleted. You know, along the lines of " it's not fair, the house is a mess, how could you be golfing when the house is a mess.

Because this was not my first time having this type of freak out, I knew what his response was going to be.

"no one is making you do it,

no one is saying it can't wait until tomorrow,

no one is telling you to do everything."

And most importantly, "Why are you cleaning when you are supposed to be getting ready for our date?"

So, I reminded myself that the difference between Denys and I is that he is VERY good with self-care. AND? The reason I was freaking out and feeling frustrated is because I'm tired and likely need to do something for my own self-care. So I scheduled some me time in my calendar. Suddenly, I went from frustrated to looking forward to my chocolate body wrap and facial even if the only time they had available is 9 am.

Immediately, I was less tired and was able to finish the rest of the chores like it was a great pleasure :) And I delegated putting away the clean laundry to him.

Win.

Do you find your partner is better at self-care and taking breaks when they need it than you are? I've been told this is a mom trait.