Life With A Baby - Does your baby have a "Lovey"

Friday, February 11, 2011 12:17 PM

Message # 520436

Debbi (Administrator)

Does your baby have an item (be it soft toy, blanket, pacifier or any other item) near and dear to them, they're attached to it everywhere they go? What is it, and when did s/he start showing attachment to it? When should you start encouraging baby to "let go"?

My little one hasn't ever really been attached to any one thing - except *me*, and I'm wondering if I should encourage something!

Friday, February 11, 2011 2:06 PM

Reply # 520526 on 520436

Tamara

My little guy really doesn't have one, never did. I did try to intorduce various items to him to have an attachment too, but nothing ever took (well maybe except mommy - lol)

Since he is 19 months and still takes a soother, would that count? But not he only chews on it when teething (which I'm okay with, rather than him chewing on everything else in sight), and at nap time.

Friday, February 11, 2011 2:26 PM

Reply # 520534 on 520436

Cortney

My son has a blanket for sleeping. We introduce "cozy banklet" around 5 or 6 months. We made sure it was always with my son when he slept - in the car, visiting relatives etc - that way it was a great signal that it was time for bed. He's now three and still sleeping with it! He sometimes asks for it if he's really upset, but for the most part it's comfort for bed and naptime.

I'm not worried at all about weening him from it. I saw a clip on The Mom Show where Nanny Rubina (sp?) said that if it makes him comfortable, just roll with it. Eventually, he will outgrow it or see his other friends outgrowing it and will stop. Or, he may be in his teens and still have this blanket, but whatever,it's a blanket!

We set the groundrule that is only for sleeping or having around the house.. We didn't want him lugging it on all our outings or snapping if it got lost in the mall or something! We have a different blanket that is just for daycare and he calls that one his 'preschool banklet'... it's really quite cute!

Friday, February 11, 2011 8:19 PM

Reply # 520755 on 520436

Jenn

My 3 year old daughter has a small Elephant, that she calls Eddie. He was always in her crib with her, till eventually she got attached to him. Now she ALWAYS sleeps with him, and like previous comments, it signals 'bed time'. He doesnt leave the house, unless we are staying away and generally stays in her room, although if she hurts herself, once we have hugged her tears away she likes to have a cuddle with him.

We even have 2 of them, in case we loose one, and also she takes him to day care to sleep with too :-)

i encourage it and i dont worry about it at all. Makes her very happy and comfortable.

As for my 9 month old, we have put a small monkey in her crib, but she hasnt taken to him yet... not saying it wont happen, but she is more attached to her blanket that she sleeps with as she likes to cuddle up with it, and sometimes put it over her head (dont worry it is one of those cotton blankets with holes in).

Friday, February 18, 2011 9:25 AM

Reply # 528535 on 520436

Dar

I made my son a stuffed panda and a couple of blankets. They have been with him since he was born. When we go stay somewhere else overnight, his blanket and the panda are always with him when he sleeps. He doesn't play with those very much when he is not sleeping. But he seems to want them to be with him when he is sleeping.

So do those count as lovelies?

Tuesday, February 22, 2011 3:40 PM

Reply # 530956 on 520436

Margie

My son loves his teddy! He loves cuddling it & putting it in his mouth!! If I want him to do something or come to me, I just hold teddy & he is there! He bonded with it around 10 months, I think that's when it started. The good thing is that the teddy is cheap & replaceable (it's the toys r us teddy with the gift certificate purchase). So, we bought 4 - just in case he looses one! They are also starting to get destroyed, so we have extra & he loves them all!

I think that is the key with any kind of lovey, is to try & have more than 1. Because if it's lost or damaged, your baby/toddler can go crazy!

I'm not sure when you should work on removing the lovey. That's a good question. I hope to read some good answers!

Does your baby have a "Lovey"

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