When Denys & I had Katelyn we were in shock at how different our lives had become and the affect it had on our marriage. We always assumed that having a baby would bring us closer together and secure the bond and love we felt for each other.   While this did happen on some levels, the reality was that we found ourselves fighting all the time, my fight was "why do I have to do everything?" My is it my responsibility... but at the same time, he would get upset because I wanted it done the "right" way.

For the first year we fought like cats and dogs... I told myself many times that's it. I want a divorce etc, etc... meanwhile of course I didn't want a divorce, I love my husband, but there were times that I felt it would better if I was by myself with Katelyn.  Why did I feel like this if I love my husband? Well for one thing - I was tired, sleep deprived and angry.  Angry that my life had chanced so severely and his really had not.  He was annoyed with me b/c he felt you are lucky, you get a year off work to spend with your baby. Other people told me the same thing.  They would say, you have a husband, a home and a lovely new baby... what is there to complain about?

I love, love, love my baby?  but it grieved my old life and I don't think guys will ever really understand how much our lives have changed and why we may sometimes resent that they just don't get it.

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