Julie . wrote:
Hi Ladies,
I'm a mom who has a 23-month old and another one on the way. I'm wondering what the best form of 'preparation' is for the times to come (I have about 6 months to go)?
- We'll be doing the transition from a crib to a bed, so that we can hide the crib from the toddler and use it for the baby.
- Potty training will definitely be 'finalized'
What else should we prepare for as a family in both physical and conversation with our toddler?
Thanks for your feedback, it's much appreciated!
Julie
Hi Julie,
I have a 28 month-old and a 2 month-old and the best advice that I can give is to just go with the flow. I was certain that my older one would be potty trained by the time #2 was here and that didn't happen, especially with him seeing all of the diapers for the newborn around. We're still working on it and hoping he will be out of diapers soon! He has also latched onto his pacifier again, now that the baby has his. I have read that regression when a new baby comes into the mix is totally normal so I am not concerned.
My biggest concern with having them close in age was that the older one would resent his younger brother because he was getting more attention. I went out and bought a few small presents that the baby could "give" to his big brother in the hospital when they first met, as well as some things when we got home. My son loved it and still refers to those toys as "big brother presents"! My husband and I also make it a point to do an activity with our older one alone each week so he doesn't feel jealous.
It's sometimes a juggling act, but in the end, I hope having them close in age will make them close brothers as they grow up!