As I sat across the table on one rare free Saturday afternoon listening to my single child free friend talk about her dreams and aspirations, it prompted me to do the same, but then I paused in awe. I was shocked at what was coming out of my mouth. I couldn’t remember the last time I uttered those words. I have been so busy trying to be the perfect mom and parent that I had forgotten about my own dreams and aspirations. Well…let me rephrase that. Oh yeah I have dreams alright. I have dreams about my daughter, who she would be, what school she will go to and etc…Sound familiar?
But the dreams I am talking about are MINE (in reference to me, not mom or wife). I realized one day that I was getting depressed. I spent so much of my time searching and looking for the next programs, play dates, or play grounds for my daughter. I found my life had become a routine. I couldn’t remember the last time I researched self-improvement workshops and books for myself. Don’t get me wrong, I love my daughter and I enjoy and treasure every moment that we have together, but come on…lets be honest here. How many times can you read that same book or sing that song, or watch that DVD over and over again within the hour, without going crazy.
I have since then taken action and try to have a little more of ME time and started reading again (non child related). I find myself getting inspired again. I thought I should post this just incase somebody else here felt the same.
They say when the parent is happy the child is happy. To be a great parent we have to be happy. But how can we be happy as parents if we are only living half of who we are (that is who we are outside of mom, dad, wife, or husband)?
They also say that as parents we are the primary teachers in our children’s lives and we do this by setting examples. We all want them to grow up to be the best of who ever they want to be or whatever they want to do. We want them to dream and dream BIG.
But how can we expect these things of our children if we are not willing to do the same…???
Just something to ponder...
Linda